Brothers have not texted me at all... What does this mean?

[ree-Xi]

I'm scratching my head because you don't seem to "get it." If they don't know you, and your only effort has been to sign your name to a list at a table on a particular day, don't you think that you should make some effort to talk to guys in classes, in the cafeteria, etc.? You haven't mentioned that you have done that.

As far as I know, fraternities don't have a "silence" period, and therefore, you should be as friendly as possible (without making people feel like you're only making friends because you want a bid). How did you choose these five organizations out of 21 if you don't know anyone?

Rush is about seeing if you're a good fit, but you need to give them something more to go on than a few seconds writing your name down. How to do that? As others have said, the old-fashioned way. Talk to people.

[preewee]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

I'm scratching my head because you don't seem to "get it." If they don't know you, and your only effort has been to sign your name to a list at a table on a particular day, don't you think that you should make some effort to talk to guys in classes, in the cafeteria, etc.? You haven't mentioned that you have done that.

As far as I know, fraternities don't have a "silence" period, and therefore, you should be as friendly as possible (without making people feel like you're only making friends because you want a bid). How did you choose these five organizations out of 21 if you don't know anyone?

Rush is about seeing if you're a good fit, but you need to give them something more to go on than a few seconds writing your name down. How to do that? As others have said, the old-fashioned way. Talk to people.

I think I do understand it more now. Again, I barely knew anything about greek life, thanks for the advice. I talked to a few friends a while ago and I was told that rush was a great way to meet people and that you didn't necessarily have to know brothers very well. Basically that there were a lot of rush events and everyone was invited. Misunderstanding I guess..

[WCsweet<3]

Originally Posted by preewee

I think I do understand it more now. Again, I barely knew anything about greek life, thanks for the advice. I talked to a few friends a while ago and I was told that rush was a great way to meet people and that you didn't necessarily have to know brothers very well. Basically that there were a lot of rush events and everyone was invited. Misunderstanding I guess..

If your friends go to a different school, their rush may be structured differently. Fall recruitment is different than spring/winter recruitment. In fall there are a ton of new students and a lot of people start off with a clean slate. In winter/spring, the fraternity men have had an entire semester to get to know students through mutual friends, dorms, clubs, classes etc and they will be pre-chosen. Think about it, you meet a cool guy in a class that is an ABC. You hang out with him during the term, study groups, lunch, pick up basketball games. You get to know some of his friends through hanging out with him. Spring semester comes and he, and a few of his friends/brothers, already know you are cool and like you since they have been hanging out with you. He invites you to a few of the events at the fraternity house. See how things play out?

[AZTheta]

OP writes this, and I bolded the sentence that indicates that OP was at Lehigh last semester:

Originally Posted by preewee

I only started looking at Greek life recently, as in like a week or two ago. I have literally had not been to their parties or anything at all last semester. What could they possibly be judging? I dont know them and they don't know me. i thought the point of rush was to change that. At the party I went to last night I hit it off with the president and got an invite back for tomorrow. But I don't love that house. I would be very puzzled if them not liking me was the reason

thetalady posts this, which OP doesn't refute (in terms of not being at Lehigh last semester):

Originally Posted by thetalady

You didn't land on campus in the last few days. Don't you think you met fraternity members eveywhere you went last semester... classes, out at restaurants or clubs, in the dorm, etc? They know you.

Then OP writes this, which introduces another topic entirely, but doesn't state that he came in 2nd semester, he's just asking about other people. And he apparently wasn't aware that Lehigh doesn't permit people to register for rush unless they have met certain unit/GPA requirements:

Originally Posted by preewee

Fair enough. Doesn't this kind of screw over people who come in 2nd semester though? And I chose 5 because a number like that was recommended, basically bc you can't possibly see every one during the rush period. Ill definitely broaden my interest though

OK? It seems to me that there is an increase in people coming here who don't write in enough detail to give ALL the necessary facts of a situation, and the rest of us either have to guess or guess incorrectly, and things go in the wrong direction. Then there are those who come here and post way too much information, which also leads to mayhem.

Where the hell is drolefille? Wasn't it drole who'd disect posts and make sense of them?

Bottom line: OP, if you went to Lehigh last semester, that's something to consider with regard to your lack of invitations, and people have given you other considerations as well. As for people who come in second semester, it is what it is; it's the Greek Life rules there, and it doesn't have anything to do with your situation.

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by AzTheta

Where the hell is drolefille? Wasn't it drole who'd disect posts and make sense of them?

Yes it was. Her translationatory posts were brilliant.