Things That I'm Sick To Death of Hearing...

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I always think this sounds weird too, but we don't have good words for romantic partners.

The word "friend" is always a "good word" for anyone you consider to be your partner. Your friends are your friends because you agree and share similar values with one another. Your significant other is not only your friend, but should be considered your best friend because you agree and share similar values with one another, but on a higher level. As a result, (unless you are married) he should be introduced as your friend, and he should also be introducing you as his friend.

Originally Posted by AGDee

What do you use instead?

"This is my friend".....




ETA: the last time I referred to someone as my "girlfriend" was when I was a Junior in high school.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

The word "friend" is always a "good word" for anyone you consider to be your partner. Your friends are your friends because you agree and share similar values with one another. Your significant other is not only your friend, but should be considered your best friend because you agree and share similar values with one another, but on a higher level. As a result, (unless you are married) he should be introduced as your friend, and he should also be introducing you as his friend.


"This is my friend".....




ETA: the last time I referred to someone as my "girlfriend" was when I was a Junior in high school.

I think "friend" doesn't accurately describe the importance of the person. There are hundreds of people I would introduce as a friend, but *that* person has a higher place. There should be a word that doesn't sound juvenile.

[GeorgiaGreek]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I think "friend" doesn't accurately describe the importance of the person. There are hundreds of people I would introduce as a friend, but *that* person has a higher place. There should be a word that doesn't sound juvenile.

I think saying "This is {NAME}" would be the best way to introduce a significant other you aren't engaged or married to. People can usually figure out by body language what the situation is (unless the couple is very anti-PDA, no-touchy-in-public) and if you don't say the word "friend," people may be less likely to think it's platonic.

[HQWest]

Roll F*$&'n Tide!

OK, we get it. The Tide are big.
Can we at least try to be classy or family friendly?

[KSUViolet06]

"Go BUCKS!" and "O-H-I-O!" from people who didn't/don't actually attend Ohio State.

And really, Kent peeps, OSU is full of fail this year, while the school you actually GO to is headed for a bowl game and a top 25 team. Go Bucks, indeed.

[groovypq]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

"Go BUCKS!" and "O-H-I-O!" from people who didn't/don't actually attend Ohio State.

And really, Kent peeps, OSU is full of fail this year, while the school you actually GO to is headed for a bowl game and a top 25 team. Go Bucks, indeed.

I am JUST like this, except about Penn State. (No offense, Penn Staters.) If I see one more person from my school wax poetic about Penn State, I will punch them. Especially when they refer to Penn State as "their" team. I want to whack them with their Susquehanna diploma...

[lovespink88]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

"Go BUCKS!" and "O-H-I-O!" from people who didn't/don't actually attend Ohio State.

I don't know why but I cannot stand people who root for a school that is not their alma mater. I don't care if that makes me sound snobby. If you wanted to root for ABC school, you should have gone there.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by lovespink88

I don't know why but I cannot stand people who root for a school that is not their alma mater. I don't care if that makes me sound snobby. If you wanted to root for ABC school, you should have gone there.

I think it's okay if their parents/family went there, if they're locals or if they have some other reasonable connection to the school, even if they didn't attend as students themselves.

I also think that an argument can be made that when a university is a public institution and is supported by tax dollars, then anyone who pays those taxes can claim some degree of "stake" in the school and is entitled to root it.

[chi-o_cat]

Originally Posted by lovespink88

I don't know why but I cannot stand people who root for a school that is not their alma mater. I don't care if that makes me sound snobby. If you wanted to root for ABC school, you should have gone there.

One of my co-workers has one of those "someecards" things at her desk that says "I'm wearing an NC State shirt because I went to NC State. You're wearing a Tarheels shirt because you bought it Walmart."

[aggieAXO]

Originally Posted by lovespink88

I don't know why but I cannot stand people who root for a school that is not their alma mater. I don't care if that makes me sound snobby. If you wanted to root for ABC school, you should have gone there.

Ditto to this! I know several obnoxious UT fans that didn't even graduate from high school b/c, as they put it-"I was having too much fun and dropped out." I don't get it and maybe it wouldn't get on my nerves if they weren't so freaking obnoxious about a school they never attended.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

"Go BUCKS!" and "O-H-I-O!" from people who didn't/don't actually attend Ohio State.

And really, Kent peeps, OSU is full of fail this year, while the school you actually GO to is headed for a bowl game and a top 25 team. Go Bucks, indeed.

Originally Posted by groovypq

I am JUST like this, except about Penn State. (No offense, Penn Staters.) If I see one more person from my school wax poetic about Penn State, I will punch them. Especially when they refer to Penn State as "their" team. I want to whack them with their Susquehanna diploma...

Originally Posted by lovespink88

I don't know why but I cannot stand people who root for a school that is not their alma mater. I don't care if that makes me sound snobby. If you wanted to root for ABC school, you should have gone there.

So I can't root for the Dallas Mavericks until I'm on the roster?

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I think "friend" doesn't accurately describe the importance of the person. There are hundreds of people I would introduce as a friend, but *that* person has a higher place. There should be a word that doesn't sound juvenile.

How about "and this is my very dear friend, So & So"?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I think "friend" doesn't accurately describe the importance of the person. There are hundreds of people I would introduce as a friend, but *that* person has a higher place. There should be a word that doesn't sound juvenile.

Right, that's why you have to do what works for you.

I just like the term "friend", because to me, a strong romantic relationship is built on a solid foundation of the mutual respect, appreciation, and camaraderie of friendship. When I find myself attracted to a woman, I make building a deeper friendship my first priority. For me, in the beginning, I just think it's important to focus on developing a closer friendship with a potential partner before introducing romance. I'm speaking of a romantic relationship where its values are shaped by Scripture and a God-centered view of romance. Your actions should "accurately describe the importance of the other person", not the word.

I respect your opinion, and I think the bottom line is to not allow our differences over words to distract us from what really matters in a healthy relationship."Friend" vs. "girlfriend"/"boyfriend" isn't really the point (I just don't like it). The terms we use to describe our relationships with our significant others are meaningless by themselves. I think it just comes down to the way the two of you live, love, honor, and serve one another. To me, that's what really matters. But, whatever term the two of you choose to describe your relationship to others, just make sure that "term" is centered on that. It's also not about what others outside of your relationship "think", it's about what you and your significant other know.

But, back to the orginal topic of the thread. I'm still not going to be referred to as a "boyfriend", and grown as hell. And I'm definitely not going to introduce a grown woman in my life as a "girlfriend". That's silly LOL.

But, whatever floats your boat.

[honeychile]

How did I forget how much I truly, truly hate the phrase, "turkey with all of the trimmings"? I always picture a turkey dressed as a Christmas tree!

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I'm speaking of a romantic relationship where its values are shaped by Scripture and a God-centered view of romance. Your actions should "accurately describe the importance of the other person", not the word.

I don't know how I missed this post, but you win at life.



eta: even Brad Pitt likes what you've posted...