sorority advice needed

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by misscherrypie

You know what, I'm remembering something(s) that happened when I was eighteen.



I didn't go to college right after High School, but did live and work in a dorm situation for about eighteen months after Graduation. Holy cannoli! Twenty women in one large attic between the ages of 18 and 23....I was too young and naive to "get" what the 22 and 23 year olds were doing...and they did their thing and we girls around our age would do ours. I made friends with the eighteen and nineteen year olds who were around, and the older girls would give me the heebee jeebies when they'd want to hang out with us younger girls. It was a "Hello....they're OLD! They don't get us....GO AWAY!"

There was this RA who was 26, and the way she'd always come up to us and say "Let's hang out! There's this coffee shop in town that you HAVE to go to!" made us want to run for the hills. We wanted to go hiking, and go camping and do our own thing and we thought that she was extremely creepy for wanting to hang out with us.

Looking back on that (hadn't thought of those times in....ten years....), I can see clearly how the women in the NPC groups on campus saw me, at twenty-eight wanting to hang out with them.

Tres Creepy.

Kallyssasmommy, I hope that my story didn't offend you.....but think back to when you were eighteen. Did you honestly want to spend an inordinate amount of time with someone who was twenty-six, twenty-seven or twenty-eight when you were that age? Perhaps this offers a bit of insight.

Huh?? For the past month, you've been mooning and complaining that the collegiate Greeks didn't want you, and two days later, you've suddenly "seen the light"????

[misscherrypie]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Huh?? For the past month, you've been mooning and complaining that the collegiate Greeks didn't want you, and two days later, you've suddenly "seen the light"????

Actually taking the time to consider how I and my friends felt at eighteen (because like all of us, I've been there) when older women were interested in spending time with us and comparing that how (in all likelihood) others felt when I went through recruitment a few months ago can serve as a major kick in the backside. Hindsight is always 20/20.

I was invited to join my hometown Junior League as a provisional member when I was 21, after a friend of my Mother's indicated to the group that I might be a very nice potential member. Attended several events in member's homes, chatted, learned about and gained a healthy respect for the organization. I declined the invitation, because in my heart of hearts, I knew that wasn't the right fit for me at the time. I also would have been the youngest by about seven years if I'd decided to join, and that prospect felt a bit strange.

No harm, no foul.