Things That I'm Sick To Death of Hearing...

[GeorgiaGreek]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Also, when I tell people I may consider adopting an older kid or teen at some point:

"But why would you want someone ELSE'S kid?"
"I could never love a kid that I didn't actually give birth to."
"But why would you want to miss out on the birth experience?"
"Why wouldn't you want a baby???"

Motherhood comes in many forms. To insist that a child "is not yours" because they're adopted is really offensive. Also, not everyone wants "the baby experience."

How awful of people to say. Not only is that a terrible sentiment, but what if you happened to be adopted yourself? And why would anybody try to deter someone from doing something that is kind and compassionate to others, especially when it would help an existing problem. Older kids are far less likely to be adopted than babies and very young children, and once they age out they're just let go with nothing or very little; Why couldn't someone understand another person wanting to stop that?

"I could never love a kid that I didn't actually give birth to." Ask them if they love their dog/cat/pet. Most pet owners would say they do, and it's pretty likely they didn't birth that creature.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by GeorgiaGreek

How awful of people to say. Not only is that a terrible sentiment, but what if you happened to be adopted yourself? And why would anybody try to deter someone from doing something that is kind and compassionate to others, especially when it would help an existing problem. Older kids are far less likely to be adopted than babies and very young children, and once they age out they're just let go with nothing or very little; Why couldn't someone understand another person wanting to stop that?

"I could never love a kid that I didn't actually give birth to." Ask them if they love their dog/cat/pet. Most pet owners would say they do, and it's pretty likely they didn't birth that creature.

Because people are selfish assholes.

[adpimiz]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

Because people are selfish assholes.

Agreed. It makes me sad that someone would say that!

[ADPi95]

Originally Posted by GeorgiaGreek

How awful of people to say. Not only is that a terrible sentiment, but what if you happened to be adopted yourself? And why would anybody try to deter someone from doing something that is kind and compassionate to others, especially when it would help an existing problem. Older kids are far less likely to be adopted than babies and very young children, and once they age out they're just let go with nothing or very little; Why couldn't someone understand another person wanting to stop that?

"I could never love a kid that I didn't actually give birth to." Ask them if they love their dog/cat/pet. Most pet owners would say they do, and it's pretty likely they didn't birth that creature.

Ditto. I may not want kids, but if I ever did decide to be a parent, I would adopt an older child. Shame on those who think there's something wrong with that.