Dropping?

[als463]

Originally Posted by cocoxchanel

A new sorority colonized at my school and I decided to join it. However I never did formal recruitment so I never got to see the other sororities my campus has. Additionally since it's new here, I feel like I'm not getting the typical sorority experience that all my other friends are getting (while paying a lot more than them) and I just don't know if this is the right sorority for me. Because it's new no one really knows each other, I know this will improve over time though. I haven't been initiated yet so I can easily drop out but if I don't get the sorority I want next year, it's a big risk. Therefore I need some help on what's best.

Wow, you sound really ungrateful. There are other girls who could have had your spot. You haven't even initiated yet and you just interviewed and received a bid to this colonization and you are already thinking of dropping? Please do. Sororities don't need women like you who have no idea how lucky they are to even be there. Stop wasting everyone else's time.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by als463

Wow, you sound really ungrateful. There are other girls who could have had your spot. You haven't even initiated yet and you just interviewed and received a bid to this colonization and you are already thinking of dropping? Please do. Sororities don't need women like you who have no idea how lucky they are to even be there. Stop wasting everyone else's time.

This is too harsh. There are a lot of reasons why a new colony member might feel like she's getting the short end of the stick. I can understand why someone who didn't go through FR wouldn't feel like she was getting the "full" sorority experience. I'd hardly call it "ungrateful." Such a huge amount of work can be daunting.

To the OP, colonies are a lot of work, but they also have fantastic rewards. There are a number of women on GC who were involved in a colony. My advice would be to not take the risk on FR next year - you don't know that you would get a bid, and you'd have already burned your bridges. Because colonies are a blank slate, you can really make what you want of it to a degree that members of established chapters may not.

HOWEVER, if you aren't willing to do the work (totally fine if you're not, not everybody is), you may as well drop and try FR, but know that you'll be closing the door on several options not only with your colony now, but dropping may reflect negatively on you with other chapters on your campus as well. So you may be making the choice to not be in a sorority.