Feeling really down about myself...why didn't I get asked back by any sororities?

[navane]

Many of the other posters have made good points. Let me just add a "state the obvious" comment -- if you publicly announced that you only wanted to consider membership to 3 out of the 15 sororities, then it should come as no surprise that the bulk of the sororities cut you right off the bat. Why would they want to consider someone who very clearly was not interested?


.....Kelly

[IrishLake]

Originally Posted by fascination

As a freshman, I was a little too overwhelmed and decided rushing a sorority would be too much for me right off the bat. But now, as a sophomore,I will be living in an apartment with 3 other girls that are all juniors in alpha delta pi (ADpi). I don't know them, but they needed a 4th roommate and we met on the apartment's roommate assignment page online. They have convinced me that greek life is worth it, although they are not allowed to really talk to me about it. I know that sophomore year is the year that girls live in the house with their sisters, so will I be missing out on that? And if I would just live in the house as a junior instead, would it be weird to be living with all girls that are a year younger than me? I don't want to sound bad, but if I do join, I would probably only want to be in a top tier sorority, either tri-delta, alpha phi, or kappa kappa gamma.But do the top tiers generally not take sophomores? When I was a freshman, a lot of the frat guys in phi kappa psi and the sorority girls in tri-delta told me that I was really attractive and would definitely get one of the top tiers, but is this not the case since I am a sophomore?I have a cousin that was in alpha phi and graduated last year, so would I have a chance there?Other than that, I don't really have any connections or friendships with the top tiers. If anyone has any experience with greek life at U of M, please let me know! Thanks!

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I didn't rush as a freshman (I guess because I was feeling overwhelmed) and I really regret it. I would really like to pledge either tri-delt, alpha phi, or kappa kappa gamma, my top choice being tri-delt, but do they usually not take sophomores? As a freshman a lot of the girls in those sororities were interested in me, but now they have forgotten me and will they not really consider a sophomore as seriously? Right now, I am living in an apartment with three juniors that are in ADpi (although I am not really interested in ADpi), and I have a cousin that just graduated who was in alpha phi. She is going to write me a recommendation, but I don't think they consider cousins "legacies." Other than that, I don't really have any connections with any of the sororities. Also, I will be living in the house as a junior, and most of the pledges live there as sophomores, so I will be a year older than most of the girls. Do you think this will make me feel uncomfortable? Does anyone know anything about the three sororities I mentioned and how they deal with sophomores?

Gee, Sarah, I can't imagine why only one sorority asked you back after first round, but maybe it was because no one at the two-low-tier-to-be-considered-sorority had seen or heard about your GC postings. Or maybe you voiced these same sentiments to others on campus and word got back to the sororities. Maybe. (And, in case you haven't figured it out yet, some guys will say anything that they think you want to hear...)

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

If you have not actually dropped out, I would consider this a lifeline and stick with it. You made some huge HUGE mistakes in preparation for rush, but you weren't penalized completely out of the game.

And regarding the beyond the pale comment, I would suggest she delete that post. And hopefully the qfps will do the same. We all saw this result coming and although we might agree, since we don't actually know this girl, I think it's in our most panhellenic behavior to give the rushee the benefit of the doubt. And yet, I can't help but think "I told you so."

But that being said, this was such an obvious result that I also can't help but think that this is just a troll out to ruffle feathers, which was wildly successful.

Originally Posted by navane

Many of the other posters have made good points. Let me just add a "state the obvious" comment -- if you publicly announced that you only wanted to consider membership to 3 out of the 15 sororities, then it should come as no surprise that the bulk of the sororities cut you right off the bat. Why would they want to consider someone who very clearly was not interested?


.....Kelly

Yup. Sorry Girl, you did this to yourself.