Auburn Recruitment Story

[AUCUMom]

I am truly happy for you and your sweet daughter! Theta is a great organization and I believe that her experience will be a wonderful one.

Our recruitment story was not as happy. My daughter is an out of state freshman, captain of her high school dance team, on student counsel, has a great grade point average and she is now a member of one of the best choirs on Auburn's campus. During the week she was impressed at how sweet all the girls were to her and was so excited that she might have friends so early in college. She had over 30 recommendations (many from Auburn alumni) and was completely open to any house.

We were shocked when she was dropped from recruitment.

She has not stopped crying and just wants to come home or look for a school where she does not feel rejected. She has found a church that I hope will help her through this difficult time, but of course, she can't talk about her experience because she feels so humiliated. I myself have withdrawn from my friends and the many people that wrote recommendations for her as I just don't know what to say.

I would like to encourage you Moms that are so fortunate to have a daughter in the Greek community at Auburn to be grateful and joyful that you are not trying to help your daughter through this heartbreaking experience that has overshadowed the beginning of college.

I wish you many blessings over the next 4 years.

[honeychile]

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[Old_Row]

Originally Posted by AUCUMom

I am truly happy for you and your sweet daughter! Theta is a great organization and I believe that her experience will be a wonderful one.

Our recruitment story was not as happy. My daughter is an out of state freshman, captain of her high school dance team, on student counsel, has a great grade point average and she is now a member of one of the best choirs on Auburn's campus. During the week she was impressed at how sweet all the girls were to her and was so excited that she might have friends so early in college. She had over 30 recommendations (many from Auburn alumni) and was completely open to any house.

We were shocked when she was dropped from recruitment.

She has not stopped crying and just wants to come home or look for a school where she does not feel rejected. She has found a church that I hope will help her through this difficult time, but of course, she can't talk about her experience because she feels so humiliated. I myself have withdrawn from my friends and the many people that wrote recommendations for her as I just don't know what to say.

I would like to encourage you Moms that are so fortunate to have a daughter in the Greek community at Auburn to be grateful and joyful that you are not trying to help your daughter through this heartbreaking experience that has overshadowed the beginning of college.

I wish you many blessings over the next 4 years.

I am so sorry this happened to her. If she hasn't stopped crying and it is affecting everything she is doing still maybe she ought to look into seeing a counselor who will help her feel better and adjust?

[honorgal]

Originally Posted by AUCUMom

I am truly happy for you and your sweet daughter! Theta is a great organization and I believe that her experience will be a wonderful one.

Our recruitment story was not as happy. My daughter is an out of state freshman, captain of her high school dance team, on student counsel, has a great grade point average and she is now a member of one of the best choirs on Auburn's campus. During the week she was impressed at how sweet all the girls were to her and was so excited that she might have friends so early in college. She had over 30 recommendations (many from Auburn alumni) and was completely open to any house.

We were shocked when she was dropped from recruitment.

She has not stopped crying and just wants to come home or look for a school where she does not feel rejected. She has found a church that I hope will help her through this difficult time, but of course, she can't talk about her experience because she feels so humiliated. I myself have withdrawn from my friends and the many people that wrote recommendations for her as I just don't know what to say.

I would like to encourage you Moms that are so fortunate to have a daughter in the Greek community at Auburn to be grateful and joyful that you are not trying to help your daughter through this heartbreaking experience that has overshadowed the beginning of college.

I wish you many blessings over the next 4 years.

I am so sorry! I know if it were me, I'd want to find out what happened.

[AnchorAlumna]

You will never know what happened. Even in your own sorority, nobody is going to give you a reason.
Truthfully, there may be no reason. Crazy stuff happens during recruitment. And it's probably not that nobody wants a particular girl; it's that her ranking wasn't high enough.

#1 - Not joining a sorority at Auburn is NOT as big a deal as at, say, Alabama. Auburn has LOTS of non-Greek students. It also has lots of other Greek-type alternatives - and joining them does not mean you can't join a sorority in the future. The mere fact that the girl in question is in one of the choral groups - the choral groups tend to be as close as a sorority - and it includes both sexes.

#2 - COB is available. She needs to sign up at the Panhellenic office. An open mind is even more necessary in this situation, because it won't be the most in-demand groups doing COB.

#3 - Spring semester COB. There is no organized effort, but many groups have spots open due to graduation, transfers etc. Plus, she'll have had a chance to make friends in the dorm with women from several different sororities as well as independents.

#4 - Rushing as a sophomore - not uncommon at all. Plus she'll have a year of grades (hopefully excellent grades), a year of maturity, a year of getting to know sorority women etc. etc.

#5 - She may not even need a sorority. She may find her own group of friends and make her own place at Auburn. Most do - even after they join a sorority.

#6 - As a mom with a daughter who went through the same thing, I can assure you that YOU worry about this way more than daughter does. Let her figure it out for herself - she'll probably surprise you!