Alabama maximizing options question

[ZTAme]

Just a question. Did she pledge this sorority because it was "old row," or because she evaluated the women in it? The old row thing at Alabama is hard to shake. A lot of girls are drawn to them just because they are called old row, and they disregard some really great organizations because of it.

And Titchou....you are right on. There is a cross section of behavior in just about all the groups.

[Munchkin03]

I don't know, this post (from the mother AND the daughter's perspective) sounds really really judgy.

Some young women can juggle being social, drinking a lot, and even (gasp!) being sexually active (and at this point, does the OP's daughter even know who's making out with randos and who's making out with her longtime boyfriend?) and being a rockstar in the classroom. Their suitability for being in a sorority doesn't hinge on that. Maybe the OP's daughter is super sheltered and has really antiquated ideas about how a young woman in a sorority should behave.

If things with certain young women become a problem, TRUST that Standards will be on it. All your daughter should be focusing on is making friends and getting that stick out of her ass. It may turn out that the girls who turned her off the most in the beginning become her best friends.

Keeping an open mind doesn't end when Recruitment does.

[GeorgiaGreek]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Keeping an open mind doesn't end when Recruitment does.

I like this sentence a whole lot.

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by ZTAme

Just a question. Did she pledge this sorority because it was "old row," or because she evaluated the women in it? The old row thing at Alabama is hard to shake. A lot of girls are drawn to them just because they are called old row, and they disregard some really great organizations because of it.

And Titchou....you are right on. There is a cross section of behavior in just about all the groups.

I wasn't under the impression that the mom actually knew if the sorority was "old row" or not, but I don't feel that this should suggest that "old row" sororities have more of this behavior than any other sororities.

I know of many girls who have been dropped by sororities considered "old row" -- and other sororities as well -- for this kind of behavior prior to rush. Sororities can be really "judgy" about that on the front side. So how is a PNM supposed to "evaluate" the behavior of other members during recruitment?

It really is a weird active/PNM double standard I guess.

BamaJama -- I do agree with others on this thread -- that in any group that size, one can find a sub-group with similar interests. Every sorority will have a range of personalities, behaviors, and interests. Don't worry about the falling-down-drunk chicks and frat taters -- as someone else mentioned -- if it is an ongoing problem, the Standards Committee will speak with them.

Alabama is kind of known for leaning to the wild side -- so your daughter will be exposed to plenty of bad party behavior in her time there.