Is it ok to attend rush events if you are not rushing until next semester?

[amanda6035]

Originally Posted by UnoriginalName

If it is acceptable should I introduce myself by saying, "Hi my name is ____, I just wanted to let you know that I am not rushing this semester because my parents will not let me this semester but next semester I am."

While this may be the truth, you will look LAME if you say this. I would find another plausible reason on why you're holding out, that doesn't sound so... Mama's boy-ish.

[pshsx1]

Originally Posted by amanda6035

While this may be the truth, you will look LAME if you say this. I would find another plausible reason on why you're holding out, that doesn't sound so... Mama's boy-ish.

No. Incorrect.

If a PNM says "my parents don't want me to join this semester," the fraternity will continue to recruit (and maybe try to convince the parents), but they will be understanding because we try to please parents, not piss them off.

[excelblue]

I think the key difference is how it's viewed and framed.

Saying that your parents won't "let" you join/rush implies that it's their decision.

Saying that your parents doesn't "want" you to join/rush implies that while the opinion is theirs, the decision is yours. Now, it's just a matter of balancing priorities and taking into consideration that family relations are important.

In some extremely rare instances, it's perfectly OK to have parents pull the funding for your education. You just get a job, declare financial independence, and be emotionally prepared to be disowned. Though, this is almost guaranteed to be a bad idea in practice.

Nonetheless, the point is: decision is yours. The consequences are for you to weigh.