After dropping from a house, is it impossible to get a bid the next year?

[DubaiSis]

I don't know where you rushed, but it seems the really early rushes are among the most competitive out there, with the strongest systems top to bottom. And from what you've said, I think your problem is not with your sorority (yes, they are yours now), but with the stress and anxiety of the process. Don't deny yourself all of the opportunity you have ahead of you just because you didn't have the ideal rush.

Girls do rerush and have successful outcomes the second time around, but it's a pretty big risk when you have a house now who does want you and you don't seem to be THAT opposed to.

We haven't had this discussion yet this year, but it is VERY common for girls to feel a big sense of letdown after rush, the girls who had the perfect rush as well as the girls who had 1 or 2 chapters from round two up to preference. It gets so overblown in your mind since it has been 100% of your life for the last week, that your expectations for awesomeness are just not met. If rush went exactly how you dreamed, you might not be any happier right now. My advice: stick it out, but do it enthusiastically. If you are negative, don't show up, don't make an effort, etc., it's never going to get better.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

I don't know where you rushed, but it seems the really early rushes are among the most competitive out there, with the strongest systems top to bottom.

Yep. Which means that this might be your One Shot.

And (I've complained about this at length on here) IMO, the "running" to your sorority in a public setting for everyone to see your emotions, successes, failures and decisions is absolutely barbaric. You might be feeling a little better about it if one or two sisters had come to pick you up at your dorm room and been able to talk to you, or even if you could have talked about it in private at lenghth with your Rho Gamma.*

Give it time - you haven't even really gotten into college life/Greek life yet. You may find that your sorority is more your speed than you realized. You're bound to them for a year, so you have nothing to lose by giving it a whirl.

*yes I know there are thousands of women, doing it otherwise would take forever, bla bla bla. I still think there are more delicate ways to handle the situation.