I was not active for a really long time, too. I moved to the middle of nowhere after college. The closest alumnae chapter was 2 hours away. I donated, but didn't keep up. My chapter was 3 states away. Then I went to law school, started a career, and had two kids, one with ASD. It's only now that I've had time to volunteer. (My kid with ASD was mainstreamed last year and we stopped all of the outside therapies.)
To everything there is a season; for most of us, there have been times when we were really involved and times when we couldn't be. I mean, REALLY couldn't be. How can we judge her? We don't know what's happened.