Always a PNM, never a sister.

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek?

It just doesn't add up. Either sorority members are making up excuses because the pariah won't leave them alone or the pariah has done something so heinous that everyone at a small school knows about it and the pariah is leaving out key facts or living in denial.

I can't wrap my head around the OP's situation. Or, as I often say, I can't connect the dots. It's too convoluted.

I'm with Greek_or_Geek.

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek?

the pariah is leaving out key facts or living in denial.

This.

Originally Posted by AzTheta

I can't connect the dots. It's too convoluted.

She hasn't given us enough information to connect the dots. I don't think anyone could figure this out without more to go on.

SoccerSweetie22, just be honest here. What was in that letter?

[AOII Angel]

I completely agree. Nothing adds up. There were always girls that we wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole that we would be happy to see infect our competitor (yeah, panhellism only goes so far.) so I just doubt that this one letter would stop EVERY group from giving her a chance. Something else is going on.

ETA: from the description of your results the first two years, what ever the reason, this isn't going to happen for you. I'm sorry, I really am, but you haven't even made it to the pref round. As a junior, your odds are not improving...and you are known. Continue your involvement in other campus orgs, make friends and enjoy life. A sorority is not the only way to have a meaningful college experience.

[dgdramadawg]

The only thing I can think of that makes the OP's story about the "letter" conceivable:

If a member of sorority A wrote a letter to her friends who are members of sororities B and C revealing something completely, insanely awful about a PNM, that might result in a cut for sororities B and C as well as A. It would have to be a story that was not only awful, but so believable that it absolutely had to be true, at least from the points of view of the chapters involved.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by SoccerSweetie22

My freshman year I lived in a dorm with a young woman who was in a sorority, and before recruitment that year, she wrote a letter to someone higher up in the Greek system saying that I do not uphold the morals and values of sisterhood. She wrote this letter after only knowing me for a few (3) months, but her complaint has negatively affected my chances for receiving a bid. I get along great with all of her sisters and many of them spoke highly of me to their President and about offering me a bid. However, their President spoke to my former roommate and the young woman stood firm. This was very disappointing, especially because I don't have a problem with her.

Originally Posted by SoccerSweetie22

I found out that she wrote the letter through mutual friends because she was talking about. It was later confirmed by my friend in her sorority who was present during a conversation my former roommate had with her sorority's president.

Originally Posted by SoccerSweetie22

The Panhellenic President at my school offered to write me a letter of rec for recruitment, I don't know the specific rules so perhaps it is for one sorority. I'm just going from what I was told. When she asked me if I would be interested in rushing again, she offered. When she found out about the same thing I did with my former roommate (she did digging because she heard I received a bid from the sorority but turned it down) she could not officially confirm or deny if we knew the same thing, but it's very likely that the XYZ member was telling the truth about writing the letter. I do not know who XYZ wrote the letter to, but was told that it was above her head when my friend who is the pres tried to get me a bid and said it was "politics" and that I didn't do anything wrong, it was just someone being stubborn and holding a grudge.

Member from XYZ wrote a letter to someone in the Greek system two years ago. Other girls in XYZ told the XYZ president I should join. XYZ President talked to my former roommate/suitemate. Roomie told XYZ Pres that she will not withdraw her letter and that if I am offered a bid, she will drop. XYZ Sorority sister of XYZ roomie was present during this conversation.

The more I read all of this, the more confused I get. And the more I wonder how the OP knows so much about this letter.

Who did the letter go to? Obviously the Panhellenic President is her new bff, so it couldn't have been her And I highly doubt that if it went to the Greek Life Advisor that he/she would have ruined the OP's chances at receiving a bid.

This is all a little unbelievable, in my opinion.

[FleurGirl]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

SoccerSweetie22, just be honest here. What was in that letter?

This. Frankly, if you upset a sister to the point that she wrote a letter to the chapter, then A) you probably did something nasty, catty, were a sloppy/lazy roommate, or some variant thereof; or B) the girl who wrote the letter is a terrible person, in which case you probably don't want to be in that chapter. If you can tell us what happened between you and that sister, we may be able to give you a better idea as to whether you might be able to resolve this or if you've shot yourself in the foot. Have you considered talking to the girl who wrote the letter yourself? Sometimes extending the olive branch can go a long way.

[ComradesTrue]

I'm still not fully convinced this is a real story, but on the outside chance that it is:

Is there a chance that whatever the roommate thought about you was also known well beyond that roommate? In other words, if it was in regards to poor choices/behavior on your part, and those poor choices and behavior happened in a public venue, then there was really no need for a letter. Plenty of people would have seen it for themselves and they would have been able to share with their own chapters.