Psycho/Stalker PNM's?!

[SLAM<3 Always]

I think it would represent the organization in a better light if someone didn't tell her to "go away" like a few others here suggested. I know this is an old post and the people involved have graduated, but maybe for other organizations and active members who have this problem it would be better if someone would start inviting her to go to the library for study hours or see if they have classes with the girl. It would improve her grades if she had a study buddy probably and from the sound of it she has friends in the organization so she can't be that terrible of a person. I think explaining that only initiated sisters can wear letters would also be appropriate, but I don't think it needs to be confrontational. I think it's a huge part of the Greek system that members mentor non-Greeks. It gives both people involved a chance to foster a friendship and it certainly won't look bad for the organization if a non-Greek sees us as leaders or inspiration in their own life.

Just my two cents....

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Hey guys! Just your friendly neighborhood New Member w/ another question.Anybody ever met a PNM or friend who was just a little too overzealous about your sorority? Or a PNM who stalked you or something. One of my sis (active) has a friend who has COB'd here @ Sigma and been cut 3 times.

She was cut for grades each time. She's best friends w/ a sis so she's around all the time, which is fine. But she refers to herself as "an honorary Sigma" and even asks to wear our date party shirts, etc.

She was at the house the day of our carwash and my sis said she almost blew a gasket when her friend came out to help wash cars in HER bid day letters!!! She even wont go out w/ some of us, b/c "drinking whether you're in letters or not disrespects Sigma" She says she wants to "represent us well".

Being new, I actually thought she was a sister. She was @ Sigma everytime I was, and talked about our events more than some sisters did, and even cried talking about how "jealous" she was of me and my pledge sis.

Anybody else have an experience w/someone who is just a bit too obsessed with your org (to the point of weird behavior)?

[carnation]

Some of these girls clearly had mental problems and the last thing untrained girls need to do is give similar people encouragement. The PNMs would see it as a sign that they were surely going to get bids and might begin to come over to the houses even more.

I knew a girl who rushed a few years back and she definitely had problems. No one bid her and she went ballistic. The president of the college she attended begged a group under quota to take her and after a few days, they gave in. My daughter and I, who had both no-recced the girl because of what we'd seen her do, later met someone from that chapter. She told us that the girl had physically attacked members and gone on screaming binges and generally put the chapter through hell before being forced to depledge.

Mentoring is great but is best done under the auspices of organizations who can supervise it.These people discussed here certainly need some kind of professional help before they join a GLO and possibly tear it to shreds.

It sounds all cozy and warm to think of helping others but in this day and age, we all need to protect ourselves. There are other ways to be leaders and impact lives positively that don't put our organizations at risk.

Originally Posted by SLAM<3 Always

I think it would represent the organization in a better light if someone didn't tell her to "go away" like a few others here suggested. I know this is an old post and the people involved have graduated, but maybe for other organizations and active members who have this problem it would be better if someone would start inviting her to go to the library for study hours or see if they have classes with the girl. It would improve her grades if she had a study buddy probably and from the sound of it she has friends in the organization so she can't be that terrible of a person. I think explaining that only initiated sisters can wear letters would also be appropriate, but I don't think it needs to be confrontational. I think it's a huge part of the Greek system that members mentor non-Greeks. It gives both people involved a chance to foster a friendship and it certainly won't look bad for the organization if a non-Greek sees us as leaders or inspiration in their own life.

Just my two cents....

[33girl]

Originally Posted by jazing

Is this only sororities? Cause we had one in the Spring at my chapter.

Oh heavens no, there are guys out there who can get straight up nutty.

Originally Posted by SLAM<3 Always

I think it would represent the organization in a better light if someone didn't tell her to "go away" like a few others here suggested. I know this is an old post and the people involved have graduated, but maybe for other organizations and active members who have this problem it would be better if someone would start inviting her to go to the library for study hours or see if they have classes with the girl. It would improve her grades if she had a study buddy probably and from the sound of it she has friends in the organization so she can't be that terrible of a person. I think explaining that only initiated sisters can wear letters would also be appropriate, but I don't think it needs to be confrontational. I think it's a huge part of the Greek system that members mentor non-Greeks. It gives both people involved a chance to foster a friendship and it certainly won't look bad for the organization if a non-Greek sees us as leaders or inspiration in their own life.

Just my two cents....

As you said, this is a very old post. The sister who was best friends with her needed to do all that, NOT the rest of the sorority. My guess is that the girl was clingy and the sister in question liked having the rest of the sorority around to "diffuse" her clinginess. And ditto what carnation said, you never know when someone is going to go full on whackadoo.

[SLAM<3 Always]

[/QUOTE]As you said, this is a very old post. The sister who was best friends with her needed to do all that, NOT the rest of the sorority. My guess is that the girl was clingy and the sister in question liked having the rest of the sorority around to "diffuse" her clinginess. And ditto what carnation said, you never know when someone is going to go full on whackadoo.[/QUOTE]

I agree that it should be the girls friend and not the entire chapter. I didn't mean to imply that the whole chapter should be involved but it seems the girl in the first situation just really was looking to make friends. This might sound crazy, but there are still huge populations of girls who go to college without know anyone in a sorority (or anything about them) so the only thing they see are the websites and what the chapters are like in the first few days. If she's seeing photos and hearing propaganda she developed an image of what they would want in their organization and is just trying to fit in.

As for the girls who need mental help, I didn't read the entire thread so that's probably obvious in some situations.