Deactivation - please help! :(

[33girl]

Honestly, y'all?

It sounds less like she is upset that her sisters lost their membership (which is what usually ticks people off the most in situations like this) and more like she can't believe that someone didn't agree with her because she is so incredibly incredible.

The Tracy Flick is strong in this one. It's great to have strong campus leaders around, but not when they martyr themselves over it or think they should get special privileges. Next.

[DrPhil]

/lane swerve

[AOII Angel]

I agree, 33, and as soon as she realizes that she doesn't know the whole story behind the actions of her organization's national body, she can work to move things along. I bet you $1,000 this is about risk management issues.

[wildcat601]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I agree, 33, and as soon as she realizes that she doesn't know the whole story behind the actions of her organization's national body, she can work to move things along. I bet you $1,000 this is about risk management issues.

No, risk management is the least of my concerns. Issues with programming, specifically with philanthropy, were the catalyst for all of this. The most recent incident indirectly involved risk management, but that was essentially the last straw.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by wildcat601

No, risk management is the least of my concerns. Issues with programming, specifically with philanthropy, were the catalyst for all of this. The most recent incident indirectly involved risk management, but that was essentially the last straw.

Yes, but that was the issue with your National organization. This is often a area of conflict between collegiates and advisers. Collegiates sometimes have a hard time seeing how their actions may effect the reputation, legal standing and health of their members, chapter and entire organization. That is where your advisers and national organization come in. It is their responsibility to make sure that you consider those repercussions and follow the regulations set forth by your group. These issues are NEVER about a single incident. That is why we tell you to realize you know only part of the story. National officers have to make very difficult decisions, and none of these women go in thinking "Yippee, I get to yank letters away from some collegiate bitch today."

[wildcat601]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Honestly, y'all?

It sounds less like she is upset that her sisters lost their membership (which is what usually ticks people off the most in situations like this) and more like she can't believe that someone didn't agree with her because she is so incredibly incredible.

That is not what happened. The girl whose membership was in question ultimately got to stay in the sorority. This issue was just one of many we've had with advisors in the past. The other issues came from working with advisors as philanthropy chair. They put a lot of pressure on us to raise more money, and then reject all of our ideas. I admit this is warranted in some cases. However, it's frustrating to have your idea rejected and then see your sorority at other colleges use that idea because their advisors approved it. (And for the record, these weren't all of my ideas -- it takes a chapter to plan a week of philanthropy events.)

I guess I haven't been around long enough to get the Tracy Flick reference.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by wildcat601

That is not what happened. The girl whose membership was in question ultimately got to stay in the sorority. This issue was just one of many we've had with advisors in the past. The other issues came from working with advisors as philanthropy chair. They put a lot of pressure on us to raise more money, and then reject all of our ideas. I admit this is warranted in some cases. However, it's frustrating to have your idea rejected and then see your sorority at other colleges use that idea because their advisors approved it. (And for the record, these weren't all of my ideas -- it takes a chapter to plan a week of philanthropy events.)

I guess I haven't been around long enough to get the Tracy Flick reference.

Can you be more specific about the good philanthropy ideas that the advisors turned down?

[wildcat601]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Can you be more specific about the philanthropy ideas that the advisors turned down?

Thanks for taking the time to read through all of this! I can't be too specific, as it'd give away my sorority, but I'll do what I can.

- Late night food: This is a popular fundraiser among sororities and fraternities at my school. Members cook and serve inexpensive food at their house (pancakes, pasta, etc.) for $5 from 10pm-1am. Over half of the other greek organizations have fundraisers like this, with more doing it every year. The profits are huge.

- Puns/slogans: These were more frustrating. To advertise for our philanthropy, we wanted to make banners and flyers with phrases that played off of our cause. We also wanted to sell tshirts with the phrases to raise more money. These were rejected and they didn't have any other suggestions when we asked for help. Later that month we saw banners with those phrases on our national facebook page, so that was frustrating as well.

It sounds stupid but the witty phrases do help raise money and awareness. For whatever reason, once a year another sorority on campus fundraises for a similar cause and they use slogans that are riskier than the ones we came up with. Their facebook event is much more popular and they raise more money in one day than we do in three.

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by wildcat601

Thanks for taking the time to read through all of this! I can't be too specific, as it'd give away my sorority, but I'll do what I can.

- Late night food: This is a popular fundraiser among sororities and fraternities at my school. Members cook and serve inexpensive food at their house (pancakes, pasta, etc.) for $5 from 10pm-1am. Over half of the other greek organizations have fundraisers like this, with more doing it every year. The profits are huge.

- Puns/slogans: These were more frustrating. To advertise for our philanthropy, we wanted to make banners and flyers with phrases that played off of our cause. We also wanted to sell tshirts with the phrases to raise more money. These were rejected and they didn't have any other suggestions when we asked for help. Later that month we saw banners with those phrases on our national facebook page, so that was frustrating as well.

It sounds stupid but the witty phrases do help raise money and awareness. For whatever reason, once a year another sorority on campus fundraises for a similar cause and they use slogans that are riskier than the ones we came up with. Their facebook event is much more popular and they raise more money in one day than we do in three.

I hate to say it, because you seem to be the kind of member we'd all like to have, but I can see the adviser issues here. The event itself does have risk management issues. Unkinown people in the house after "hours", who would cook the food (possible health department issue not to mention insurance issue), possibly needing an adviser there at a non standard time, etc. Just the first few things off the top of my head...and some chapters may have ways to deal with these things whereas yours may not.

As for the banners, etc, those can be issues as well. We control that kind of thing in my GLO = national policy speaking. All tee shirts have to be approved, etc. While it might be cute, it may not be something you'd wear to visit your grandmother. And I think that's probably what the advisers are looking at.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by wildcat601

Thanks for taking the time to read through all of this! I can't be too specific, as it'd give away my sorority, but I'll do what I can.

- Late night food: This is a popular fundraiser among sororities and fraternities at my school. Members cook and serve inexpensive food at their house (pancakes, pasta, etc.) for $5 from 10pm-1am. Over half of the other greek organizations have fundraisers like this, with more doing it every year. The profits are huge.

- Puns/slogans: These were more frustrating. To advertise for our philanthropy, we wanted to make banners and flyers with phrases that played off of our cause. We also wanted to sell tshirts with the phrases to raise more money. These were rejected and they didn't have any other suggestions when we asked for help. Later that month we saw banners with those phrases on our national facebook page, so that was frustrating as well.

It sounds stupid but the witty phrases do help raise money and awareness. For whatever reason, once a year another sorority on campus fundraises for a similar cause and they use slogans that are riskier than the ones we came up with. Their facebook event is much more popular and they raise more money in one day than we do in three.

Originally Posted by Titchou

I hate to say it, because you seem to be the kind of member we'd all like to have, but I can see the adviser issues here. The event itself does have risk management issues. Unkinown people in the house after "hours", who would cook the food (possible health department issue not to mention insurance issue), possibly needing an adviser there at a non standard time, etc. Just the first few things off the top of my head...and some chapters may have ways to deal with these things whereas yours may not.

As for the banners, etc, those can be issues as well. We control that kind of thing in my GLO = national policy speaking. All tee shirts have to be approved, etc. While it might be cute, it may not be something you'd wear to visit your grandmother. And I think that's probably what the advisers are looking at.

I have to agree with Titchou here. My chapter and (if I remember correctly) all other chapters on my campus weren't allowed to hold bake sales, or any other official event where the members prepared food. It's a liability issue that most fraternities and sororities don't want to deal with.

Also, in regards to the slogans - everyone wants theirs to be the cutest.. Or the funniest.. Or the most clever... But I promise you that this isn't why girls join your sorority or why people donate money. Did you join your sorority based on a t-shirt design? Probably not. Design a t-shirt or slogan that SAYS something and MEANS something. Make a t-shirt or banner that piques someone's interest. As an example, which I believe I found on phiredup.com, a chapter made a t-shirt that simply said "Ask Me". When people asked, they talked about their sorority and Greek life experience.

Use your creativity instead of reverting to silly slogans that have been used over and over. Think outside the box. You don't want to be like every other chapter on campus.. You want to stand out.

Originally Posted by Cheerio

OP mentioned she felt micromanaged by her chapter's advisors (do I hear heli-Mom's taking on advisor roles now that their children are in college?)

Winning awards isn't always a chapter's main goal; sometimes meeting every goal set still doesn't get you The Award you are encouraged to seek.

Our chapter was encouraged to hold philanthropic events similar to those of our group's Top Overall Chapter. This proved difficult because Top Chapter member numbers were triple ours, and Top Chapter held outdoor car wash/Mr University contest/Dance Marathon while our campus preferred candy/bake sale events. Without high Philanthropic Numbers we were not considered well-rounded enough to win Top Chapter.

With our advisors and other small chapters, we asked our National Board to appreciate differences between campus cultures and made recommendations that standards for awards be changed. Thankfully National Board listened.

In 2006, my chapter won the award for Top Chapter at our national convention, and we also won the highest philanthropy award. At the time, we didn't have any more than 15 members. We hosted a pageant (which the chapter continues to hold every year), we participated in the JDRF walk in town, we participated in Habitat for Humanity, and took part in countless other events. We never raise the most money.. But national organizations generally reward huge efforts and dedication. The numbers aren't so important.

Your advisors need to realize that.

It sounds like the active members need to learn to pick their battles, and if things get out of hand, a change in advisors might need to be discussed.

Does your chapter re-elect your advisors year after year? Every other year?

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

I have to agree with Titchou here. My chapter and (if I remember correctly) all other chapters on my campus weren't allowed to hold bake sales, or any other official event where the members prepared food. It's a liability issue that most fraternities and sororities don't want to deal with.

At my alma mater, the SCHOOL wouldn't let you do that for the same reasons. You had to jump through hoops to get special approval. It was much easier to use Aramark or host something off campus.