Transgender in a Fraternity

[DrPhil]

I agree with both Greek or Greek and pshsx1. It really depends. Even friends and family who have adjusted can accidentally refer to you as your former name or former gender. It happens and with no ill will.

There will always be records of the former gender or people who know you in the former gender--unless the person transitioned shortly after birth and did not take a photo, have hospital records, birth certificate and ID cards, or know friends and family in their previous gender. I remember reuniting with someone 20 years ago. "He" was now a "she." Everyone in her life had made the adjustment but here I was, a blast from the past, looking for the man that I knew. Everyone was like "there she is" and I was like "she? no, I'm looking for (insert man's name)." This person was not the most convincing transition even after the years of hormones and so forth therefore I doubt that anyone would be shocked that I knew "her" as a "he."