Is it okay to date one of frat bros old hook ups?

[FSUZeta]

you could send him an email and tell him that you would like to date the girl, but out of respect for your brotherhood you wanted to let him know beforehand. see how he reacts and then make your decision.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

you could send him an email...

Are you serious about this?

To the OP - if you really like this girl and you want to be with her, talk to your brother about it. You never know.. He might understand completely and not be bothered by it. A lot of my sisters dated my exes and it never bothered me. One of my sisters is actually still with my ex and they've been together for over 5 years. And shortly after she started dating him, I started dating one of his brothers. Haha

My philosophy is: it didn't work out with me and my ex, but if they're happy together, why should I be the one to stop it?

But please, whatever you do, do NOT send an email, or text, or carrier pigeon to inform your brother that you intend to date this girl! Have a conversation with him. That's what my sisters did with me, and I was happy they were honest with me. If they were to try to go behind my back, THAT would have made me mad.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

But please, whatever you do, do NOT send an email, or text, or carrier pigeon to inform your brother that you intend to date this girl! Have a conversation with him. That's what my sisters did with me, and I was happy they were honest with me. If they were to try to go behind my back, THAT would have made me mad.

Quoted for awesomeness.

Some people care if you date their ex. Some people do not care. Some chapters have strict but unofficial guidelines when it comes to who a sister/brother wants to date or has dated ("calling dibs"). Some chapters do not. The OP will figure it out.