Rush Help. Rushing as a sophomore this fall.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

As far as clothing, wear what you feel comfortable in. Unless you are at a school with an IFC-organized formal rush, many of the PNM's at a rush event will literally be guys grabbed from the dorms or whatever right before the event, or guys who drop in off the street, so you shouldn't think it's going to be like sorority rush where outfits are planned out months in advance. Pretty much, use common sense. If the event is flag football, don't walk in wearing your polo shirt and boat shoes.

As far as race...I don't think this will matter for most group at most Big 10 schools in the year 2012. However, I have two suggestions:

1) Take a look at the websites of the groups on your short list. Are there any minorities? Now, I wouldn't necessarily rule a group out if there aren't any, but if the group is more than, say, 50 guys and they are all white, it is perhaps a yellow flag.

2) Be honest about how you are first received at each group. This is important anyway, but if you feel that you are getting any sort of pushback in making a first impression, move on. There are too many groups out there to zero in on one that thinks this is okay.

[AOEforme]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

1) Take a look at the websites of the groups on your short list. Are there any minorities? Now, I wouldn't necessarily rule a group out if there aren't any, but if the group is more than, say, 50 guys and they are all white, it is perhaps a yellow flag.

2) Be honest about how you are first received at each group. This is important anyway, but if you feel that you are getting any sort of pushback in making a first impression, move on. There are too many groups out there to zero in on one that thinks this is okay.

For #1, I wouldn't put too much emphasis on this point. I would rely MUCH more heavily on #2. With the demographics of IFC Greek Life at some Big 10 Schools, that might be just how rush went that year. I know, for instance, that a lot of my friends preferred to rush NALFO or BGLO, but those who did gravitate towards IFC fraternities had few problems.

With that being said, there are a few fraternities where you might find problems, but that will be evident if you follow DeltaBetaBaby's Rule #2.

If you don't make it a big deal, no one else will. That goes with everything for Recruitment, in my opinion.... (Which is from a sorority perspective).

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by AOEforme

For #1, I wouldn't put too much emphasis on this point. I would rely MUCH more heavily on #2. With the demographics of IFC Greek Life at some Big 10 Schools, that might be just how rush went that year. I know, for instance, that a lot of my friends preferred to rush NALFO or BGLO, but those who did gravitate towards IFC fraternities had few problems.

Agreed. That's why I said "yellow flag" and not "red flag". Some fraternities also pull heavily from one high school or geographical area. If that area is middle-of-nowhere, Iowa, the guys may all be white, but not exactly by design.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

FYP

What can I say . . . I'm a Southerner. Saying "Ma'am" is hard-wired.

[honeybadger]

Thanks, both of you! I'll keep all that in mind whilst rush. Well, going to a super preppy boarding school in England hammered good manners into me haha Sir's and Ma'am's everywhere. ( So, yes even though England is not in the south we still address people that way )

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

What can I say . . . I'm a Southerner. Saying "Ma'am" is hard-wired.

It's okay, I'm just giving you sh*t. I actually find it very frustrating to be thought of as younger than I am (I get mistaken for an undergrad WAY more often than I'd like).