High School Boyfriend and Sororities

[Sciencewoman]

My senior daughter recently broke up with her HS junior boyfriend. They'd been dating for over 2 years, but he really didn't want her to go out of state for college. The more nervous he got about her going away, the more clingy he got, and the more turned off she became.

Sciencewoman Jr., here! My boyfriend and I were determined to stay together through college, but in the end, it just didn't work out. The more I thought about it and we discussed it, the more I realized it just wasn't going to be a manageable situation. You and your boyfriend might be in a different position, but for us, it wasn't in the cards. The one thing we did discuss that I think might be useful to you is having a schedule for communicating (calling, skyping, etc.) and for visits, which might be easier for you than they would have been for us. Hope this helps!

[Old_Row]

Ignore all the haters. If you do a lot of sexy skyping your relationship will stay strong 4eva.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Old_Row

Ignore all the haters. If you do a lot of sexy skyping your relationship will stay strong 4eva.

LOL.

I won't say "you're going to college, so right away you need to break up/make plans to date others etc." At such a huge university, it's not a bad idea to have a support system to keep you from getting into trouble. (Translation: it is way easier to say no to horny 21 year old guy at party who wants more than you are willing to give if you still have a boyfriend at home.)

However, if you get to the point where you are resenting his presence in your life and feeling tied down, then you need to have a talk with him about the status of your relationship. Same goes for him. It probably won't be pain free, on either end, but if it is, your relationship probably was on the shallow side to begin with.