Initiated, Transferring to a School with a Colony

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by Sciencewoman

I also wouldn't assume that these rules, when they exist, are always to prevent someone from joining at less competitive/smaller school and then transferring to a larger/more competitive recruitment school. In my case, the schools were both flagship state universities, but my original chapter was "stronger" on campus than the chapter I transferred to. At my new chapter, we had another affiliate who transferred in and her original chapter was very strong on campus. And, she was always reminding us of this. This did not win people over.

Another reason why transfers should not rush to affiliate. Hold off a semester...visit the chapter, get friendly. If it's a match, then affiliate (assuming the feeling is mutual, of course). If not, don't affiliate and keep your membership. Because if you do affiliate, and are unhappy, your only recourse is to resign from the sorority.

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

Another reason why transfers should not rush to affiliate. Hold off a semester...visit the chapter, get friendly. If it's a match, then affiliate (assuming the feeling is mutual, of course). If not, don't affiliate and keep your membership. Because if you do affiliate, and are unhappy, your only recourse is to resign from the sorority.

I could not agree more with this, AnchorAlumna! Know of a situation where a member affiliated and hated the chapter. She was on the hook for dues for 2+ years.

Yours is (IMO) the smart solution to what Greek_or_Geek described. I'll add this: for those members with behavioral/risk issues (and yes, I've seen those), holding off a semester allows the potential affiliate to demonstrate that (a) she's turned over a new leaf or (b) she's still the same old, same old and the chapter is prepared to deal with that from the get-go.

I have stories, stories, stories that can never ever see the light of day...and I bet the rest of you do as well.

Was expecting to get flamed; everyone must be out enjoying their Saturday.