Non-Greek Pinning an AOII?

[SP123]

Originally Posted by Old_Row

It's been three years. You should be sure enough to make the commitment by now.

Not that I really need to justify this, but here's our line of thought: neither of us want a super long engagement (more than a year), and immediately after graduation she is starting a 3 year graduate program. I can't afford a ring and a wedding right now, so we're going to wait a little longer to make that leap, mostly for logistical reasons. I certainly don't think there's anything wrong with waiting longer than 3 years.

That said, thanks for your opinions on the pinning question!

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by SP123

Not that I really need to justify this, but here's our line of thought: neither of us want a super long engagement (more than a year), and immediately after graduation she is starting a 3 year graduate program. I can't afford a ring and a wedding right now, so we're going to wait a little longer to make that leap, mostly for logistical reasons. I certainly don't think there's anything wrong with waiting longer than 3 years.

That said, thanks for your opinions on the pinning question!

This is not specifically at you, but I've never understood why people won't get engaged until a certain time because they don't want a "long engagement". If you're planning on staying together, what difference does it make if you're in a "committed dating" or "engaged" relationship status (besides a ring and a Facebook status ). I get the wanting to save up for a superfabulous ring, but beyond that I don't get it.


I guess the opposite is true, though...if you know you're not going to be able to get married for awhile, why get engaged. In the end, to each his own, but I'd rather have the ring (well, the officially announced intention, the ring actually truly is meaningless without the intention) now than later.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

This is not specifically at you, but I've never understood why people won't get engaged until a certain time because they don't want a "long engagement". If you're planning on staying together, what difference does it make if you're in a "committed dating" or "engaged" relationship status (besides a ring and a Facebook status ). I get the wanting to save up for a superfabulous ring, but beyond that I don't get it.


I guess the opposite is true, though...if you know you're not going to be able to get married for awhile, why get engaged. In the end, to each his own, but I'd rather have the ring (well, the officially announced intention, the ring actually truly is meaningless without the intention) now than later.

A couple can be committed to one another without plans for marriage. You can be unsure about marriage without being unsure about your relationship. In this case, the OP and his girlfriend are still in school. Maybe they don't yet know what they will want their relationship to look like post-college.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

A couple can be committed to one another without plans for marriage. You can be unsure about marriage without being unsure about your relationship. In this case, the OP and his girlfriend are still in school. Maybe they don't yet know what they will want their relationship to look like post-college.

I totally get that, it was more the sentiment that they know they want to get married but he doesn't want to "put a ring on it" because they don't want to be engaged more than a year. Again, I'm not just discussing the OP - I know other people like this.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I totally get that, it was more the sentiment that they know they want to get married but he doesn't want to "put a ring on it" because they don't want to be engaged more than a year. Again, I'm not just discussing the OP - I know other people like this.

Yeah, but I bet you'd have to explain yourselves over and over and over again. Everyone asks about wedding plans. It would get old in a quick minute, and I could see why people would want to avoid that.