Non-Greek Pinning an AOII?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Old_Row

It's been three years. You should be sure enough to make the commitment by now.

IMHO pinning is a fraternity tradition and is only meaningful in that context.

An engagement ring is a totally different story.

But she's Greek. He wants to make a special promise to her that's short of an engagement, and he wants to do this because he knows that it would mean a lot to her as a Greek. I think to say that an independent can't do so, that he needs to barrel straight on into asking her to marry him while Alan Alpha Alumnus could just pin her, is absolutely ridiculous.

[SP123]

Originally Posted by 33girl

But she's Greek. He wants to make a special promise to her that's short of an engagement, and he wants to do this because he knows that it would mean a lot to her as a Greek.

This is really what it's about for me. It is something that she has always wished could happen, and I know that it will mean a lot to her if I can do it for her. This is about telling her, in her language, that I love her and am committed to her. And, I really like the symbolism of the pinning ritual, telling her that she comes first.

Thanks again to everyone for contributing, I really appreciate the opportunity to hear your perspectives! This post was about finding out whether this was appropriate, and so I value the comments from people that don't think it's appropriate, too.