How were calls started in BGLO's???

[Finer Woman10-A-91]

EQueen...Sister Greek,
I understand you want to make everything by way of "interests" neat, clean, and simple and fun. But the real truth is... that's not how it works with the NPHC organizations.

Quite possibly, its a cultural difference. For example, the very referral of "interests" as "candidates-new members/pledges/littles" is out of line with our way of initiating business.

Truth be told, any sincere candidate of any NPHC organization knows and understands the unwritten rules without any stroking or cuddling. Its not expected. We don't pledge potentials with the understanding this is a fun college thing. We are looking at LIFETIME COMMITTMENT potential. Consequently, the tolernce level is low in the area of aloof "how can I be down with the Zetas or any other NPHC organzation".

My observation of nearly 10 years in an NPHC organization takes a show and PROVE approach. If you have to talk about it...you probably are not doing it....and probably are not WORTHY...and yes, I meant WORTHY. Bottom line, every young lady who expresses an interest in Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Incorporated is NOT worthy.

As we continue to learn and observe more about "Interest X" more than likely at some point there will be a demonstration or illustration through actions that will define whether or not Interest X is a viable potential. And if they deemed so fortunate then and only then will they be considered a candidate.

I say all of this illustrate, we take the process of weeding out interests to potentials VERY seriously. And by the way there is a difference between being an "interest" and being a "potential".
More often than not we don't mix intention. In other words, you will not get the okie doke on issues of importance.

Originally posted by equeen:
OK, so I've learned a very good lesson here: make sure to educate our candidates (new members/pledges/littles/etc.) on how to firmly but pleasantly respond when an inappropriate question is asked by a non-sister, or someone who doesn't need to know. It's not a crime on the questioner's part to ask (unless they just *know* better, as is often the case on the 'net)...however it depending on how a sister responds, the questioner's opinion of the sister and our sisterhood could be compromised. And no one needs that.

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