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Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby
At Illinois, the fraternities outnumber the sororities by a lot, so the sororities do a lot of the choosing, but my sorority was on the lower end when it came to popularity with fraternities. Therefore, I felt like we always had the internal debate: Do we want the more popular fraternity, or do we want the fraternity who is really excited to have a mixer with us? When I was younger, I thought it was all about getting mixers with the hottest/most popular guys, and then as I got over it, sophomore and junior year, I was much more interested in mixing with guys who were excited and would throw a good event.
I'm not sure how that is helpful to you, but are you getting to know the women in other situations? For example, you should definitely be participating in their philanthropy events and things like that. Can you invite some girls over for something like a mixer without calling it that? Ask them to stop by for study snacks during midterms or something. Invite them to a barbeque. Sometimes, sororities think in terms of a set number of social events, so they don't want to bump another fraternity for you, but if you did something additional, they'd go along with it.
Finally, have you considered the non-NPC groups on your campus? They may want to party with you, too.
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The situation at your school is exactly the situation of mine. We have so many more frats that the sororities are not really losing out by not mixing with us (well, besides getting to know us
haha). Also, a lot of the people at my school focus a lot on status, so they have the same conflicts you do. One of the sororities that said that they were "too busy" was a sorority that was only added to our school fairly recently and it seems like even though we are more "on their level," they want to mix with the "cooler" frats, since that will also help their reputation... I feel like even upperclassmen still care about the status here, unfortunately. Part of me thinks these ideas about reaching out could help, the other part of me realistically thinks nothing is going to change :/.
We could try a dinner or something though. And yeah non-NPC could be a good option too, although sometimes I just think its sad that we're ignored by the NPC ones.
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Originally Posted by LAblondeGPhi
Totally agree.
I know it's not standard, but I think it's a great idea to expand outside the Greek community: think about women's club teams or service organizations (UCLA has Bruin Belles, USC has the Helenes, etc.) I've known of sororities mixing with the business school (yes, the graduate school of business), and rugby club teams.
For teams, I think hosting a day-before BBQ or spaghetti dinner is an opportunity not just to socialize, but to support the team. My high school cross country team used to skip practice the day before a meet in favor of spaghetti carb-loading.
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Good ideas! And they'd probably care less about the status stuff, though again, at my school you never know...
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