Any encouragement?

[Old_Row]

Originally Posted by Spinderella

If a non-greek asks a good question and gets a 'grasshopper type answer' from a greek, I will attempt to answer the question.

I think it is deplorable for people to be left in darkness about something that really needs more light shined on it. Way too many people spend their college and some adult years chasing something that if given proper information, they could have made alternate decisions or handled things differently for themselves.

I'm all about the candidates or people who think they want to be candidates.

Once you get there, I can't do nothing for you man. UNLESS you want to denounce...

Have a nice day.

All that advice you just gave didn't do you a lick of good in your eternal search to become a Delta, did it?

[Spinderella]

Originally Posted by Old_Row

All that advice you just gave didn't do you a lick of good in your eternal search to become a Delta, did it?

I learned that it is for some, not all, and definitely not me. Therefore, my eternal search is for something totally different.

[als463]

Originally Posted by Spinderella

I learned that it is for some, not all, and definitely not me. Therefore, my eternal search is for something totally different.

Then, why don't you take that "eternal search" you have and go search another website where you DON'T give advice about an organization where you are not a member. So, if Tiger Woods tries to give advice to Tom Brady about how he can win the Superbowl, does that mean (as a Golfer and not a Football player) his advice would even be relevant? I don't think so. You are NOT a member so, you should probably just allow the ladies of Delta Sigma Theta answer (or not answer) future aspirants (if that is the word). You have no reason to be dispensing advice that you clearly didn't take. It's actually quite shocking that you are not a member. How could they not want you?

[SageB11]

Originally Posted by als463

Then, why don't you take that "eternal search" you have and go search another website where you DON'T give advice about an organization where you are not a member. So, if Tiger Woods tries to give advice to Tom Brady about how he can win the Superbowl, does that mean (as a Golfer and not a Football player) his advice would even be relevant? I don't think so. You are NOT a member so, you should probably just allow the ladies of Delta Sigma Theta answer (or not answer) future aspirants (if that is the word). You have no reason to be dispensing advice that you clearly didn't take. It's actually quite shocking that you are not a member. How could they not want you?

I see where both of you are coming from but ALS, you are coming at her for not being a part of this amazing organization and giving advice but why havent you given me any advice yet????

As for your example between Tiger Woods and Tom Brady, I personally believe that they do have common ground. They are both in sports and even if their sport of choice is completely different, they can still give each other advice to get to their goals in said sport. Tiger Woods doesnt have to tell Tom Brady how to run but he could give him advice on his mindset on how to get that championship. So please, dont bring anyone down because the things she told me were the things that I actually had to do...


So anyone else who is willing to give me some surface advice, please feel free.

[Old_Row]

Originally Posted by Spinderella

I learned that it is for some, not all, and definitely not me. Therefore, my eternal search is for something totally different.

Because people who have given something up always spend time hanging out on and giving out uneducated advice on message boards focused on the thing they gave up.

[Old_Row]

Before it suddenly disappears ............

Originally Posted by Spinderella

Dear Sisterfriends,

It is now the end of May. Together, we all received our rejection letters in early March. The line that we were not selected for crossed into the ‘land of Blah Blah’ in mid-April. Let’s move on with our lives. Please stop calling me to replay why you think we didn’t make it. The why is no longer important at this time, because knowing why won’t change things.

Take stock of your life; we are still beautiful, we still contribute to society and we are actually financially richer. Even more so, if you count all the things the other women had to pay in becoming members and committing their lives to the most illustrious, dynamic, never duplicated sorority on Earth; the one and only Blah Blah Sorority, INNNNCORPORATED. God has a greater plan and being a member at this time, wasn’t it.

If the money is still burning a hole in your piggy bank, either donate it to your favorite charity, pay off some bills or go buy something very very nice for yourself.

If you Sisterfriends are the true hearts that I think you are, you will take time to reconnect with old girlfriends and other sisterfriends who are already in your lives. You will find that you are already part of your own sororities, in which, if you are as diligent as I am about picking my friends, you will already have some 'sho-nuff got ya' back women in your life.

Keep serving your community doing the things that make you feel good. Just because it was classified as self-serving doesn’t mean you didn’t ultimately help someone. Get over that point. Your time was and still is valuable to all people you helped. When you feel the time is right, then you can switch community service to be more reflective of what is needed.

But I implore you; search your heart before you do. Ask yourself 'Why would I feed the homeless, if I really like working with the kids in my school?' Keep in mind that women in the sorority do what they like and get involved in committees where their talents are best suited, too. Don't be fooled into thinking that members do 'painful' community/committee service work. And if it is painful, they do it with their sisters, so there is a bigger intrinsic joy. Don't go to the homeless shelter, by yourself, thinking it will get you brownie points if you would rather be somewhere else.

Sisterfriends, you are grown women, it is at this juncture of your life that you should be comfortable in your skin and happy in what you do. Don’t let ANYBODY take that away from you, EVER. We are long past the ages of 19. Some longer than others.

So in summary, if getting a rejection letter is the only thing that bonds us, please don’t call me anymore. But if you are calling to invite me to a community service project that you are doing, or to say that your kids are excelling/having problems and you wanted to share the joy or reach out for my help, most certainly, feel free to call at any time. I will be there for you. If you are calling to tell me a joke, make me smile, share your joys, please call me.

Don’t call me to say that you saw such and such. Don't call to ask did I hear about certain unpublished events--if a member didn't call me (and I know plenty), then maybe I'm not invited. (Perhaps if a member didn't call you, maybe you aren't invited either, hmmm?) Don’t call me to say you heard this, you heard that. Don’t call to say such and such chapter might be doing something next year, let’s try again. Don’t call to say “it’s their loss, I really thought you would make it.” Do me and yourself a favor, lose my number, because on this matter, I don’t give a rip. Life goes on and this is officially the summer of SPINDERELLA!!!!!

I will still Luv Ya, Sisterfriends!! (even from a distance)

PS Find some good-hearted Sisterfriends, go see Sex In the City on Friday and toss back some Cosmos. You’ll feel better! Make ’08 YOUR SUMMER!


PS 2--If you find yourself at a public or private Blah Blah Sorority Innnnnncorporated event and you are still neurotic about what colors to wear, IT IS OKAY TO STOP WEARING BROWN AND GRAY!!! Add some new colors to your wardrobe...perhaps oranges (rust to peach), yellows (canary to gold), purples(orchid to deep rich purple), teals, or turquoise. Wear colors that will uplift your spirits. It may take some time to find these colors, but when you do, it will be that much sweeter to uniquely represent yourself while feeling good in a color that complements your beautiful skin tones. Gray ain't never did nothing for nobody.


Red, pink (all variations ranging from fuschia to mauve), burgundy, green (ranging from olive or lime) or royal blue are not the only color games in town.

[Spinderella]

Thank you for researching that!! I would NEVER dream of deleting it because I feel the same way today. We live and learn and I like coming here to read the sincere posts of women who sit where I sat.

This is an anonymous forum, therefore, if a woman (especially undergraduate) comes here to ask a sensible question, they deserve a sensible answer; no matter the source who attempts to answer it.

I believe in empowerment, not belittlement.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Spinderella

This is an anonymous forum, therefore, if a woman (especially undergraduate) comes here to ask a sensible question, they deserve a sensible answer; no matter the source who attempts to answer it.

I believe in empowerment, not belittlement.

Um no. They deserve reliable responses -- including responses letting them know that the question is inappropriate -- from someone with credibility, not from someone who didn't make it and has (so she says) "moved on."

I believe in boundaries and in not presuming to answer questions on behalf of an organization to which I don't belong.