How do I tell my mother I do not want to go through recruitment?

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by DoctorD

I will concur. Go through recruitment. It hurts nothing.

My mother insisted I go through [she's also a Delta Delta Delta], and I did to appease her.

I did not know this and I am so incredibly grateful that your mother insisted

My daughter grew up asking when she gets to be an Alpha Gam but now isn't sure whether she would consider being greek and is especially concerned that Alpha Gams have an unnatural squirrel obsession. Only one of the schools that she is considering has an Alpha Gam chapter. Although I would love it more than anything is she were to become my sister, I have to respect her to do what is right for her. She knows I will assist her financially if she chooses to go greek and she has discovered SAI, which appeals to her a lot (because she's into music). When we visited the University of Michigan on Saturday, I told her "You know I have to drive you by the house because it's such an incredible house." Her dad was amazed at the size and beauty of that house and asked her if she was going to join her mom's sorority. I said "She's not sure she's feeling it but she knows that I'll help her pay dues if she decides to join any sorority."

I'm glad she openly told me that she might not be interested in a sorority. I happen to know, because I know these things, that she would love the experience. She would find the leadership opportunities, the community service opportunities and the "family" feeling she has now in marching band. I know she's gong to miss those things, especially the last one. The marching band is so much like a sorority or fraternity because you work closely together to achieve a common goal, you don't like everybody in the band, but you end up loving them and rallying for them if something bad happens to them. You share a passion and that becomes bigger than individual relationships.

You need to tell your mom your concerns. But I'm also going to encourage you to go through recruitment. You don't have to accept a bid, but it's worth giving a try.