How do I tell my mother I do not want to go through recruitment?

Old_Row · #1 01-31-2012, 04:55 PM

Go through recruitment. It may very well surprise you and if you feel the same way during it, you will know for sure it isnt for you and will be in a much better position to explain to your mother why because you tried and experienced it. Or you could walk into your legacy house and tell them you don't want to join them so they drop you. Or put them at the bottom of your first round list.

By the way, you do know that your legacy status, friends and recs do not guarantee you'll get a bid in this day and age at those schools right?

CaliforniainTx · #2 01-31-2012, 05:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Old_Row

Go through recruitment. It may very well surprise you and if you feel the same way during it, you will know for sure it isnt for you and will be in a much better position to explain to your mother why because you tried and experienced it. Or you could walk into your legacy house and tell them you don't want to join them so they drop you. Or put them at the bottom of your first round list.

By the way, you do know that your legacy status, friends and recs do not guarantee you'll get a bid in this day and age at those schools right?

Yes ma'am, I know that. But I know in the minds of many PNMs I'm in a great position, especially for those who have aren't legacies or have limited connections.

Maybe my mind will change after Preview Day in March, but as of now even being around my mother and her friends has not changed my mind.

amIblue? · #3 01-31-2012, 05:23 PM

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This reads a little too close to that Dear Abby letter/thread.

This.

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By the way, you do know that your legacy status, friends and recs do not guarantee you'll get a bid in this day and age at those schools right?

Quadruple this.

Does the OP have any idea how many Tri Delta legacies there are for these schools?

CaliforniainTx · #4 01-31-2012, 05:31 PM

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Originally Posted by amIblue?

This.

Quadruple this.

Does the OP have any idea how many Tri Delta legacies there are for these schools?

I have already acknowledged being a legacy has no huge significance. My point was that there are girls are not legacies and they would love to be or to have that sort of family history.

NutBrnHair · #5 01-31-2012, 05:40 PM

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Does the OP have any idea how many Tri Delta legacies there are for these schools?

Come on... She is a triple legacy to THAT chapter with a sitting sister in the house. That's pretty special.

CaliforniainTx · #6 01-31-2012, 05:46 PM

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Come on... She is a triple legacy to THAT chapter with a sitting sister in the house. That's pretty special.

I think she just means that I won't be the ONLY girl to be a legacy and that couldn't be any more true. I won't be the first or only, which is why Alabama recruitment is super competitive and I think most of the girls are legacies.

I didn't really mean to come across as I think I'm special for that, I just think the whole situation makes it worse on how I feel. It would be one thing if my mom was trying to live through me and make me go through recruitment, but I'm her second and last daughter and I know how happy she was when my sister went through recruitment and received a bid for DDD.

I mean, Preview Day is on March 24 and maybe my mind will change then, but as of now if it doesn't I don't want to drag everyone along.

amIblue? · #7 01-31-2012, 05:50 PM

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Come on... She is a triple legacy to THAT chapter with a sitting sister in the house. That's pretty special.

Is her sister a sitting member at all three schools she mentioned that she has been accepted to? That IS pretty special.

She doesn't say where her sister is a member. Here's what she said:

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She and my grandmother are Alumnae of Delta Delta Delta at the University of Alabama in Tuscaloosa and my sister is an active member of Delta Delta Delta.

OP - Either go through recruitment or don't. We are all members of GLOs, so we think you should at least give it a shot. Telling your parents that you don't want to do something that they want you to do is something you're going to have to learn how to do as an adult.

CaliforniainTx · #8 01-31-2012, 06:09 PM

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Originally Posted by amIblue?

Is her sister a sitting member at all three schools she mentioned that she has been accepted to? That IS pretty special.

She doesn't say where her sister is a member. Here's what she said:

OP - Either go through recruitment or don't. We are all members of GLOs, so we think you should at least give it a shot. Telling your parents that you don't want to do something that they want you to do is something you're going to have to learn how to do as an adult.

I should have been clearer with my situation.
I was accepted into Alabama, Ole Miss and TCU but my sister is currently a DDD at Alabama.
Going to another uni was never really an option for me.
My whole family is all about Alabama haha and growing up around Tide fans makes you really want to go there. I just brought that up...I'm not sure why.

NutBrnHair · #9 01-31-2012, 05:24 PM

Obviously, my feeling is that you should go through recruitment and see for yourself. You are making this decision before you've even experienced it for yourself and if I was your Mom -- that wouldn't seem fair.

That being said, IF you go through with your decision NOT to participate in recruitment. I would have the talk with your Mom sooner rather than later. Please don't have all of her friends go to the trouble of writing recommendations for you, only to discover that you never planned to even sign up.