Greeks dating GDI's

[lovespink88]

Originally Posted by amIblue?

This may be one of the dumbest posts I've ever read on GC.

LOL

Originally Posted by dandrewporter

I have to play devil's advocate a bit here. I know it sounds harsh, but most of the issue with Greek & GDI relationships all fall back on inclusion.

If you're a proclaimed GDI (We refer to them as Nons or Potentials; depending) then you haven't had the experience that is Greek life. Simply put: You're not one of us. You don't understand the importance of the things we do in the same way that a sorority girl does. They have the same experiences relating to rituals, learning creeds, and the pledge process that changes a person. You haven't had that, and while you may still be supportive of him eventually things of that nature will come between you.

His brothers are giving him a hard time because they know it, just as I do, and they're preparing him. Either he is going to not let you go and he will pass through their tests. Or he will dump you for a sorority girl before the the end of 2012. Either way he will still spend less time with you (this is why Greeks date Greeks) because you won't be allowed to participate with his new friends and new obligations. Greek events are for Greeks and you're not one.

All of that meanness aside. I hope that your relationship lasts. Maybe things will go different for you. Or maybe you'll become a sorority woman. No matter what happens. Good luck.

I joined my sorority during my junior year of college. My boyfriend at the time joined his fraternity as a freshman. We will be getting married in June.

His membership in his fraternity did not cause him to spend less time with me before I joined a sorority. His fraternity commitments did not have any negative impacts on our relationship.

Greek events are not always just for Greeks. I went to many functions as my fiance's date and was always treated with respect by his brothers.

I just attended two weddings where one person was Greek and the other wasn't.

Yes, if one person is Greek and the other isn't, it's certainly fair to say that they will have different experiences. But that doesn't in anyway mean that the relationship is destined for failure.

Basically, dandrew, what I'm saying is STFU.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by dandrewporter

You know. Devil's advocate is never a liked position. I'm not saying that it's going to happen, nor that I necessary approve of it. I just brought the other side of the argument to the thread.

What do you mean devil's advocate is never a liked position, or that you're not necessarily saying you approve?

I have a feeling you don't know what it means to be devil's advocate.

[amIblue?]

What do you mean devil's advocate is never a liked position, or that you're not necessarily saying you approve?

I have a feeling you don't know what it means to be devil's advocate

Ding ding ding!! Winner winner chicken dinner!

[dandrewporter]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

I have a feeling you don't know what it means to be devil's advocate.

someone that takes a position he or she does not always agree with, just for the argument.

I know what I mean. Don't hate.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by dandrewporter

someone that takes a position he or she does not always agree with, just for the argument.

I know what I mean. Don't hate.

Close. Someone who argues a position he doesn't agree with as a means of testing the soundness of and identifying weaknesses in the original argument. (Unless one wants to be literal about it, in which case it's a canon lawyer who argues against canonization of a saint. Or, for a nod to pop culture, a movie with Al Pacino and Keanu Reeves.)

Not hating. Don't assume disagreement means hate, and don't assume hate where none is expressed.

[dandrewporter]

Listen. I am not trying to get off on the wrong foot. I just feel that you all act like it's not happening, but it is. There are two sides to every coin. I just felt like one side of the argument wasn't being shown. Is that such a bad thing?

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by dandrewporter

Listen. I am not trying to get off on the wrong foot. I just feel that you all act like it's not happening, but it is. There are two sides to every coin. I just felt like one side of the argument wasn't being shown. Is that such a bad thing?

That's not what you did. Instead of saying "Some stay together, some don't," you essentially said "she will be tested by fraternity brothers and he will inevitably dump her."

You said it as if it was dogma.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by dandrewporter

Listen. I am not trying to get off on the wrong foot. I just feel that you all act like it's not happening, but it is.

I guess you didn't read Dr. Phil's post (the second post in the thread):

Originally Posted by DrPhil

As for this whole dating a GDI thing, that probably has to do with the social aspects, and perks, of being in Greek lettered organizations. Such things that seem important when you are a college student become less important years later.

Nobody said it wasn't happening. What was said is that it can be superficial when it happens.

[DrPhil]

I forgot I posted in this boring thread.

[melindawarren]

I'm only posting this because I'm sick of collegians coming here and giving us all a bad name.

From a female perspective, I don't think there's any reason why "having less of an understanding of the significance of ritual blah blah whatever" should impact a relationship between two adults.

Then again, I can't prove that anyone in the OP's situation is actually an "adult."

If a guy doesn't want to date one of my awesome unaffiliated friends just because she isn't Greek, he's missing out, big-time.

If a guy only wants to date me because I have letters, he's an idiot. I'm sorry, but he is. And he's probably not worth my time, either.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I forgot I posted in this boring thread.

Well, not every thread can include Geraldo's nose being punched into pieces.

[KaiEli]

I'm from a school that is 75% guys. We don't really put much stock in GDI, if you can gets chick (like my boy did me) her being Greek doesn't make a dang bit of difference.

[amIblue?]

Why can't THIS thread be deleted?

[dreamseeker]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

Well, not every thread can include Geraldo's nose being punched into pieces.

LMAO.