Am I too old to get accepted into a sorority?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by bluerockstar91

Thank you much for helping me out!

I talked to someone in the Greek Life office and she gave me the dates for spring recruitment and said our total is 80 and that my age and having previously rushed isn't a problem. I also got a 3.6 GPA this past semester (my best since starting college) and that raised my cumulative to a 3.2.

As I said in the other thread, you're focusing on technicalities. Maybe technically these things aren't a problem, and technically they won't prevent you from getting a bid, but you need to connect with the women. That's the most important thing. Her saying that just means that if the worst does happen and you don't get a bid, you can't come back and say it's because of your age or previously rushing.

[bluerockstar91]

That is very true. I'm a very open-minded person and I try to be polite and friendly to everyone, but that doesn't mean I'm going to have instant chemistry with everyone I meet either and that's okay. I will accept a bid to any sorority who wants me, no matter how "popular" they are.

Also, I feel like a huge idiot for this haha but I recently found out that my credits from my one semester at an out-of-state school didn't transfer to my current school. That makes me a sophomore instead of a junior which would mean that I unintentionally lied about my class standing when I went through formal recruitment last fall. Although I can understand them wanting to cut a girl who lies about something huge like that and I feel really stupid for it, is that something that the current sorority girls are likely to remember about me when they see me again during spring recruitment?

[DubaiSis]

It's not a lie if it's an error. If they ask you about it, answer honestly. But what you say on a form is secondary to what your transcript says and part of what you're signing when you register for rush is allowing access to your transcript. Someone correct me if I'm wrong, but they don't really go by what you say on your reg form, right? I mean, everyone would be a 4.0 first semester freshman if they did it that way.

In other words, regardless of what you said on your form, they probably had accurate information anyway.

[bluerockstar91]

Well, that's relieving to hear. Thanks! I didn't lie on my registration form last fall and I don't plan on lying on it in the spring.

[bluerockstar91]

Sorry I keep coming back but I have one more question. My school's spring recruitment takes place on a Monday and Tuesday evening in January and I was told during Fall formal rush that all the chapters have their weekly mandatory meetings on Monday evenings at the same time.

I'll have an evening class every Monday this coming semester (it's required for my major and this is the only time it's offered this semester), so should I skip it to go to Monday's recruitment events (I very rarely skip class unless it's an emergency) and ask my professor about making up what I'll miss or do you think skipping Monday's events to go to class will make me look uninterested in sorority life? Also, if I have to miss the mandatory Monday meetings because of class, is that likely to be a huge problem that will ruin my chances of getting accepted into a sorority?

I'm thinking of dropping that class and replacing it with a different earlier class, then taking the Monday evening one next year instead but I'd like to know more about how it'll affect my recruitment first. Thanks again to everyone who's helped me so far!

[DubaiSis]

School comes first. If rush activities are happening on Monday and Tuesday, can't you just go on Tuesday? And class is an hour. Are the rush activities longer than that? You need to pull on your big girl pants and work this one out for yourself. Time management is a big part of sorority life.

As far as sorority commitments, people always have conflicts but being a pledge and missing every meeting would be problematic. I'd ask about it if you're offered a bid and prior to accepting. There's no need to bring up a negative issue until it's necessary.

[bluerockstar91]

Well it's a 3-hour class that meets only once a week on Mondays, so I'd probably miss all of the Monday rush activities. I decided though that I am going to drop it and take it next year instead. It's not a prerequisite for anything so as long as I take it before I graduate, it's not a big deal.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

As far as sorority commitments, people always have conflicts but being a pledge and missing every meeting would be problematic. I'd ask about it if you're offered a bid and prior to accepting. There's no need to bring up a negative issue until it's necessary.

Chapter meetings and pledge meetings are not necessarily on the same night, though.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by bluerockstar91

Also, if I have to miss the mandatory Monday meetings because of class, is that likely to be a huge problem that will ruin my chances of getting accepted into a sorority?

Yes.

Pledgeship usually lasts only 6-8 weeks. You're going to have sister obligations for those other 9-7 weeks of the semester. Also, sometimes pledge meetings are held on the same night except earlier to make things easier for everyone.

Since you're dropping it it is a moot point.

[bluerockstar91]

Alright, well it sounds like I made the right decision by dropping it. Thanks again to everyone who's helped me out.