Greeks dating GDI's

[33girl]

Originally Posted by kittykatsz

Hey everyone, I'm currently a GDI (as the greek's refer to me as), but I'm thinking of rushing next fall. Anyways, my bf just joined a fraternity and apparently all of his brothers are giving him crap about dating a GDI. We've been dating for almost 2 years, but I just don't see why a greek dating a GDI is taboo. Can someone explain this to me? Being a GDI, this leads my bf and other frat friends who are dating GDI's seriously to wonder if they can still pin/lavaliere their girlfriends. Yes? No? What are the rules for these types of things? Thank you in advance to anyone who replies!

Sometimes when guys first join a fraternity, a certain amount of crap about ANY girl they're dating is expected. Especially if it's a longterm relationship. A lot of times it's a testing kind of thing. Then the guys get used to the girl and everything's fine.

Be as sweet as pie to his brothers AND their girlfriends and make them feel like a-holes for saying anything unkind about you. If you want to rush, go ahead and good luck, but do it for YOU, not because you feel like you have to (not that I get that vibe from you at all).

As far as pinning, that's something determined by his chapter/org. If his org says he can't lavalier a non-Greek, he can just get you a nice big ol' cocktail ring instead.

[ComradesTrue]

rant/

I despise the term GDI.

/end rant

[melindawarren]

Originally Posted by Blondie93

rant/

I despise the term GDI.

/end rant

Me too! Especially because I think it is used inappropriately in many circumstances. If I do understand, it really refers to anti-Greeks, not non-Greeks. I have friends who aren't Greek but would like to be (they just aren't for whatever reason) or still respect the system. That's hugely different from the people who think the Greeks serve no purpose in the community (ironically, one of the first upperclassmen I dealt with at SC practically kicked a few people off the stairs when we were blocking her path! I'm happy to say that I know very few people who are truly "GDI" in that sense).

Side note: why is topic so popular now?

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Sometimes when guys first join a fraternity, a certain amount of crap about ANY girl they're dating is expected. Especially if it's a longterm relationship. A lot of times it's a testing kind of thing. Then the guys get used to the girl and everything's fine.

Be as sweet as pie to his brothers AND their girlfriends and make them feel like a-holes for saying anything unkind about you. If you want to rush, go ahead and good luck, but do it for YOU, not because you feel like you have to (not that I get that vibe from you at all).

As far as pinning, that's something determined by his chapter/org. If his org says he can't lavalier a non-Greek, he can just get you a nice big ol' cocktail ring instead.

This. I was going to respond that it just sounds to me like this is the one thing they've found that they can pick on him about. This is what guys do. I wouldn't worry too much about it. My experience has been that sorority women care more about this issue than fraternity men.