How to bring back Lavaliering

[KSUViolet06]

This is not me being mean, so keep that in mind please.

WCSweet is right. You can tell him about it, but if it's something he doesn't really get, or see the importance of, don't be upset if he's just like "oh" and then does nothing. Or if he talks to his brothers about it and they're like "wtf? no way!!!" Especially if your school isn't big on it.

Also, do you really want a lavaliere that you had to talk someone into giving you? Wouldn't you rather have a more meaningful give that he like, chose?

Sidenote: I went to a school that was big on lavaliering and let me just say that lavaliering doesn't always = engagement and eventual marriage. Even with people who have been together for a long time. So I probably don't see it as a "must do" thing the way others do.

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

This is not me being mean, so keep that in mind please.

WCSweet is right. You can tell him about it, but if it's something he doesn't really get, or see the importance of, don't be upset if he's just like "oh" and then does nothing. Or if he talks to his brothers about it and they're like "wtf? no way!!!" Especially if your school isn't big on it.

Also, do you really want a lavaliere that you had to talk someone into giving you? Wouldn't you rather have a more meaningful give that he like, chose?

Sidenote: I went to a school that was big on lavaliering and let me just say that lavaliering doesn't always = engagement and eventual marriage. Even with people who have been together for a long time. So I probably don't see it as a "must do" thing the way others do.

That bold part was absolutely my experience, too. To me, it seemed more akin to wearing a guy's class ring in high school.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Sidenote: I went to a school that was big on lavaliering and let me just say that lavaliering doesn't always = engagement and eventual marriage. Even with people who have been together for a long time. So I probably don't see it as a "must do" thing the way others do.

I went to a school where lavaliering was unheard of and probably was seen as corny to those who had heard of it. I had my own and my sisters thought it was weird (take the girl out of the South...?).

That said, I'm not sure how cool I am with lavaliering. It's a college girl's version of a promise ring (remember the girls in HS who got promise rings?) and I've heard about people seriously act up over them. You can "talk about engagement" all you want but a lavaliere isn't going to bring you any closer to actually being engaged or getting married.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I went to a school where lavaliering was unheard of and probably was seen as corny to those who had heard of it. I had my own and my sisters thought it was weird (take the girl out of the South...?).

That said, I'm not sure how cool I am with lavaliering. It's a college girl's version of a promise ring (remember the girls in HS who got promise rings?) and I've heard about people seriously act up over them. You can "talk about engagement" all you want but a lavaliere isn't going to bring you any closer to actually being engaged or getting married.

Yeah it's weird because my school isn't southern at all.

The seriousness with lavaliering makes me LOL because for every person I know who married the guy who lavaliered them (my big and twin sis are actually both married to guys who lavaliered them), there are like 5 people who ended up breaking up within months of getting lavaliered.

It's almost as if Murphy's Law of Lavaliering states that if 10 couples get lavaliered, only 2 of them are actually going to be together after college.

My fave was a girl in my major who was all "zomg Bobby HAS to lavaliere me!!! We've been dating 2 years!" Two months after they got lavaliered, Bobby broke up with her. The next year, he lavaliered a totally different girl in a different chapter after 6 months. lol.

You also can't really take my opinion on this seriously because after like 2 years of dating, I'd really rather have a bracelet than your fraternity letters.

[AlwaysSAI]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Sidenote: I went to a school that was big on lavaliering and let me just say that lavaliering doesn't always = engagement and eventual marriage. Even with people who have been together for a long time. So I probably don't see it as a "must do" thing the way others do.

My boyfriend and I are both out of college, we didn't date in college, and no one I did date in college was greek so I've never been lavaliered.

But, I've mentioned it to him before and his exact response was: "My chapter stopped lavaliering because every couple that did it broke up less than a year later."