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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06
I've heard of this. This seems like the route du jour for those who want kids, but don't want to adopt an older child, or be waiting for an infant FOREVER.
Random adoption related sidenote:
We have neighbors who are interested in adopting a newborn, but have been signed with an agency for 10 years and no match. To be frank, White infants are not the most common children placed for adoption so if you aren't interested in overseas adoption or adopting trans-racially, you are going to be waiting on that newborn for awhile (and really you may NEVER be chosen to adopt one.)
Not to mention that when a birth mom comes along who will be placing her (white) infant up for adoption with the agency our neighbors are with, said mom has her pick of at least 30 other birth families. They explained the process to me once, it seriously is like The Bachelorette: Adoptive Parent edition.
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If you restrict yourself to adopting an infant (particularly one of the same race although there are reasonable disagreements over transracial adoption) that's pretty much the outcome. Yeah, adoption of older children isn't all cupcakes and rainbows, but when it becomes a competition for a healthy white baby vs any other combination of traits, races or ages it just comes off as selfish* to me. I'd rather see more people willing to foster and/or adopt older sibling groups. (And more services available, although around here at least there are a LOT of services and support, it's really impressive.)
*In many ways I see having kids at all as selfish, not in an inherently bad way or anything. And yes I know that once one is a parent it ends up being about the most selfless thing you can do, but having a kid in the first place is, whether for reasons of genetics or love or society's expectations, pretty self-focused. Totally willing to be convinced otherwise.
/would like to be a foster parent eventually, but can't afford it right now.
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