Thoughts from Someone Who Went Through Formal Recruitment

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Originally Posted by melindawarren

Thanks for adding this.

I would actually advise you to take a look at COB, especially if you really want to be Greek, for a few reasons. First, many chapters shine during informal in ways they simply can't during formal. It's not that they're "bad" chapters, but they may just have a different vibe that doesn't really work with formal recruitment and the format (let's all be honest here-formal is a difficult format for any kind of "getting to know you" activity). During informal, I actually felt like I got to know the people who rushed me. Second, informal can a lot more fun than formal recruitment because, usually, the chapters involved have a lot more freedom in planning their events. You probably won't actually think you're being rushed. Lastly, you say you have a 3.3 GPA-how far are you in college? At many schools, going through as a sophomore is tough and going through as a junior is nearly (if not completely) impossible.

Also, rejection can mess with your self-esteem; there's nothing abnormal about that-it's learning how to handle it that makes the difference between high and low self-esteem.

I'm actually a junior this year and next year will be my senior year :/. Not the easiest time to rush but my school isn't too competitive. My rho chi even said she had seniors in her pledge class. But I will check out COB when the time comes.

I guess the saddest part about rush was that I really liked the girls I talk to and I don't know if they just didn't like me enough or something else. Either way, I'm lucky to have fun memories from recruitment!