being "chosen"

[southernbelle14]

Originally Posted by Mevara

I was in a chapter that was considered bottom but we still always "cut" members. Some people just were not a good fit. Maybe we didn't cut as many PNMs as some of the stronger chapters but we were still choosing our members.

Please don't talk about all the smaller chapters like you know what is going on. Maybe it happened at your chapter but don't generalize it to the rest of us.

Well maybe if you read the entire post, including where I said I only know about my campus obviously, you wouldn't have to state this.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by southernbelle14

Well maybe if you read the entire post, including where I said I only know about my campus obviously, you wouldn't have to state this.

You also don't know what your campus does. You only know what your chapter does. BTW, you come off as very insecure and bitter. If your chapter takes everyone that comes through the door, that is your chapters choice. It does not mean that every chapter that is "lower tier" does this. Every NPC organization has a different take on this and handles it differently. If you don't like how your organization handles it, change it from within.

[southernbelle14]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

You also don't know what your campus does. You only know what your chapter does. BTW, you come off as very insecure and bitter. If your chapter takes everyone that comes through the door, that is your chapters choice. It does not mean that every chapter that is "lower tier" does this. Every NPC organization has a different take on this and handles it differently. If you don't like how your organization handles it, change it from within.

Eh, I was annoyed with the system at first, but I got over it. And no, I don't know details about member selection in the other bottom chapter, but my friends in it have talked about how they have to take girls they aren't thrilled with also. So unless they are just lying, I do have some idea.
I don't have a problem with being in a lower chapter. I do have a problem with people acting like lower chapters are just as selective as top ones. Not everyone is technically wanted. Chances are, we will end up loving everyone, but that doesn't mean we really wanted all of them.
Also, my chapter takes grade risks that other chapters can cut because they are more selective. So I'm basing this on things other than just looks and how social they are.

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by southernbelle14

Well maybe if you read the entire post, including where I said I only know about my campus obviously, you wouldn't have to state this.

That was an incredibly rude way to reiterate your original point.

I'm sorry your chapter operates the way that it does, and I'm also sorry that you don't feel like you can change it. That's got to be an incredibly helpless feeling. However, it only takes a small group to be determined to change things.

Best of luck to you.

[Mevara]

Originally Posted by southernbelle14

Well maybe if you read the entire post, including where I said I only know about my campus obviously, you wouldn't have to state this.

I did read every one of your 9 posts and you are generalizing to the entire greek community nationwide. Here you refer to other chapters in general not just your own.

Originally Posted by southernbelle14;

So why continue pretending that every chapter gets their pick of new members? Greekchat shouldn't be some magical place where real world concepts don't apply. As I've seen written under other circumstances, it isn't unicorns pooping rainbows. In reality, not all chapters are equal.

and again here

Originally Posted by southernbelle14

I am referring in general to chapters that are just as big as every other chapter.