I feel Disconnected

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

This is what I think he meant as well. Sample scenario: Brother sees him in letters and greets him, at which time brother can tell that OP doesn't really know the grip or, perhaps, the appropriate way to respond to brother's greeting. Brother then naturally questions OP's legitimacy.

That happens a lot for sororities and fraternities (across councils and conferences). The OP can figure it all out. If he can't figure this out then even I question his legitimacy.

[melindawarren]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

That happens a lot for sororities and fraternities (across councils and conferences). The OP can figure it all out. If he can't figure this out then even I question his legitimacy.

I see how this could be difficult, though.

This would be the equivalent of me making it through this semester, after which point, poof! My sorority leaves campus. Yeah, I'd be confused and concerned, too, and I don't know that, without GC, I'd really know what to do. Given the little I know about guys (and the littler I know about fraternities), I can only imagine how much more confusing that'd be!

I know GCers are often skeptics (heck, so am I!), but I definitely understand this guy's POV and know that I'd be clueless, too.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by melindawarren

I see how this could be difficult, though.

This would be the equivalent of me making it through this semester, after which point, poof! My sorority leaves campus. Yeah, I'd be confused and concerned, too, and I don't know that, without GC, I'd really know what to do. Given the little I know about guys (and the littler I know about fraternities), I can only imagine how much more confusing that'd be!

I know GCers are often skeptics (heck, so am I!), but I definitely understand this guy's POV and know that I'd be clueless, too.

Then I would question your legitimacy and/or weep for the Internet Generation.

(Most GC threads are about national/international GLOs that are quite visible even if they are not on a particular campus.)

Long before the Internet existed, there was a such thing as people figuring this stuff out without the Internet. There is a big difference between using GC for ease and convenience (which can also be a bad thing depending on the topic) versus actually needing GC. GC cannot really tell you the policies and protocol of how specific GLOs get in contact with other members; or what you should know and how you should behave around other members of your GLO. If what people are looking for is just general advice they should know that or know how to find that without GC. That is what new member training, life as a member, and basic smarts and research are good for. Sure, it can be more stressful, embarassing, scary, and humiliating to call people, talk to people, or email people about this stuff in real life. Sure, typing about it on GC is a safe hiding mechanism. Typing about it on GC is also a cowardly cop-out for some topics.