Rush - What to NOT do or say

[OneHeartOneWay]

Originally Posted by KillarneyRose

This is from a conversation I had with CeCe Newbie yesterday:

KR: If you're at a rush party and one of the sisters says, "Oh CeCe, we love you so much and you'd fit in so well at ABC! When you fill out your bid card, only put down our sorority because we definitely want you!" What do you do?

CCN: Well, I wouldn't put just the one sorority because that would be suiciding, Right?

KR (proudly): Yes, that's right. And you don't want to do that.

CCN: What if I want to join the sorority that asked me to suicide but I still put another sorority second? Will the sisters at the first sorority be mad because I didn't suicide them?

KR (Thinking to herself) Those dirty rushing bitches messing with my baby!!!
KR (Says out loud): I think if you got a bid from the first sorority, they wouldn't know what other sorority you put on your card. But I'm going to ask on GC to see for sure.

So...can anyone help? Thanks!

Unless the campus still does bid-matching by hand and a chapter advisor has a big mouth, I don't think there's any way the chapter would know unless she told them.

If she received a bid from her second (or third) choice chapter, the first choice chapter would obviously know, but it really would be a moot point since she wasn't a NM, and although they "definitely wanted her," they "definitely wanted" X number of NMs above her on the bidlist.

Hmmm...unless, as i keep thinking...If the chapter advisor/recruitment officer knows/figures out from looking at their bid list that she was a quota addition, and has a big mouth, the chapter could know. You can only be a quota addition by maximizing your options, which means you didn't suicide (assuming you attended more than one preference event.) So, I suppose, actually, that if CeCe is a quota addition AND the chapter advisor/chapter officer in charge of recruitment figures out she's a quota addition AND said person has a big mouth and tells the chapter, then yes, I suppose the chapter would know. But, if she HAD suicided, she wouldn't have ended up as a quota addition and a NM....

[33girl]

Any sorority that would be mad because you didn't suicide them is obviously full of bitches.

[KillarneyRose]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Any sorority that would be mad because you didn't suicide them is obviously full of bitches.

Oh, absolutely! But if that did happen, the poor pledge wouldn't know it until she's pledged to the bitchy sorority and then it would be too late (at least for that year).

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by OneHeartOneWay

Hmmm...unless, as i keep thinking...If the chapter advisor/recruitment officer knows/figures out from looking at their bid list that she was a quota addition, and has a big mouth, the chapter could know. You can only be a quota addition by maximizing your options, which means you didn't suicide (assuming you attended more than one preference event.) So, I suppose, actually, that if CeCe is a quota addition AND the chapter advisor/chapter officer in charge of recruitment figures out she's a quota addition AND said person has a big mouth and tells the chapter, then yes, I suppose the chapter would know. But, if she HAD suicided, she wouldn't have ended up as a quota addition and a NM....

But the only way to know someone is a QA is to see that she is in your chapter, and another PNM who listed you first is not. So you'd have to know a lot of information to which you are really not privvy to be certain.