rush week disaster

thetalady · #1 09-03-2011, 10:24 PM

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Originally Posted by vivalacutie

i rushed this week and on pref night i got my top 1 sorority and my last choice (which i really didnt want). today bid day was supposed to be one of the happiest days of my life and ended up being one of the most painful. i opened my bid card and it was the sorority i didnt want.i'm really upset and i haven't been able to stop crying.

How sad that you consider getting a bid that YOU put on your card a disaster

YOU KNEW YOU DIDN'T WANT TO JOIN THIS CHAPTER and signed the card anyway? What a waste.

If you had such strong feelings that you would not want to be a member of this chapter, why in the world did you take the place away from another girl who would have loved to be a member? If your feelings were this strong, it is my personal opinion that you should have gone with single intention preference (suicide). Now that you have done it, I agree that you should give it a try instead of walking away a quitter, but only if you can honestly be a positive member.

Maybe this will be a learning experience & you will make better decisions in the future.

vivalacutie · #2 09-03-2011, 10:38 PM

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Originally Posted by thetalady

How sad that you consider getting a bid that YOU put on your card a disaster

YOU KNEW YOU DIDN'T WANT TO JOIN THIS CHAPTER and signed the card anyway? What a waste.

If you had such strong feelings that you would not want to be a member of this chapter, why in the world did you take the place away from another girl who would have loved to be a member? If your feelings were this strong, it is my personal opinion that you should have gone with single intention preference (suicide). Now that you have done it, I agree that you should give it a try instead of walking away a quitter, but only if you can honestly be a positive member.

Maybe this will be a learning experience & you will make better decisions in the future.

well it works a little different in my school. i kept dropping the sorority i got a bid from every single night. but they kept calling me back until pref night. i didn't take anything away from anyone, i knew from the start i didn't want them. i didn't accept the bid anyways

SWTXBelle · #3 09-03-2011, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by vivalacutie

well it works a little different in my school. i kept dropping the sorority i got a bid from every single night. but they kept calling me back until pref night. i didn't take anything away from anyone, i knew from the start i didn't want them. i didn't accept the bid anyways

Um, you don't get a bid every night - you only get a bid on bid day. You get invitations every day after first round.

If you didn't put a sorority on your pref card you could NOT have received a bid from them during formal recruitment. Shenanigans, perhaps?

KSUViolet06 · #4 09-04-2011, 12:18 AM

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Originally Posted by vivalacutie

well it works a little different in my school. i kept dropping the sorority i got a bid from every single night. but they kept calling me back until pref night. i didn't take anything away from anyone, i knew from the start i didn't want them. i didn't accept the bid anyways

I'm really not sure why this happens (maybe people aren't explaining it well enough on the Panhellenic end?) but PNMs always think they're "cutting" the house that they rank lowest and are confused when that one keeps showing up in their schedules.

You haven't actually dropped anyone. Ranking them low just says you don't really like them as much as the others and you'd PREFER not to go back, it doesn't mean you're eliminating them from your choices.

Like, I said, maybe it wasn't explained to you properly. The confusion is pretty common though.

FSUZeta · #5 09-04-2011, 10:48 AM

vivalacutie, i am sorry that things didn't work out for you. you kept having to go back to the sorority you did not want to return to, because the middle two sororities did not invite you back.

I think we need to cut her some slack on placing the undesired sorority on her bid list. this is probably another instance of the rho gamma/panhellenic that they HAVE to put all the sororities where they attended pref. parties on their card, or their card would be spit out by the computer and they would end up with no sorority.

katydidKD · #6 09-15-2011, 08:33 PM

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Originally Posted by thetalady

How sad that you consider getting a bid that YOU put on your card a disaster

YOU KNEW YOU DIDN'T WANT TO JOIN THIS CHAPTER and signed the card anyway? What a waste.

If you had such strong feelings that you would not want to be a member of this chapter, why in the world did you take the place away from another girl who would have loved to be a member? If your feelings were this strong, it is my personal opinion that you should have gone with single intention preference (suicide). Now that you have done it, I agree that you should give it a try instead of walking away a quitter, but only if you can honestly be a positive member.

Maybe this will be a learning experience & you will make better decisions in the future.

THIS IS WHAT I MEAN WHEN I SAY YOU CHEW GIRLS OUT EITHER WAY! Listing all groups or not listing all groups you preffed. Either way, we don't like what she did.

Drolefille · #7 09-15-2011, 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by katydidKD

THIS IS WHAT I MEAN WHEN I SAY YOU CHEW GIRLS OUT EITHER WAY! Listing all groups or not listing all groups you preffed. Either way, we don't like what she did.

You are being deliberately obtuse by ignoring every other response to you on the matter.

Stop being the politeness police (or continue and watch people not give a shit.)