rush week disaster

[amIblue?]

It is a big disappointment to not get the chapter that you had your heart set on. However, GC is full of women who gave their second and third choices a chance and never regretted a minute of it.

[melindawarren]

I hate to be a PNM jumping in on a PNM situation, but I feel a strong need to say:

As someone who knows the feeling of being completely dropped from the whole process, posts like this make me feel a little sad.

I spent a lot of time convincing friends to give their new Greek homes a shot. I'm glad that many of them are doing just that, because, as I've read a million times on GC, you were selected for that house for a reason.

Anyway, I really don't like being the PNM who gets in the way of other PNMs, but still, I know what it's like to get "the" phone call, and it totally stinks, no matter how the story ultimately ends. It's a shame that some other girl got the phone call and couldn't receive a bid, while the OP has just given up her bid without even giving the new home a chance.

Originally Posted by melindawarren

I hate to be a PNM jumping in on a PNM situation, but I feel a strong need to say:

As someone who knows the feeling of being completely dropped from the whole process, posts like this make me feel a little sad.

I spent a lot of time convincing friends to give their new Greek homes a shot. I'm glad that many of them are doing just that, because, as I've read a million times on GC, you were selected for that house for a reason.

Anyway, I really don't like being the PNM who gets in the way of other PNMs, but still, I know what it's like to get "the" phone call, and it totally stinks, no matter how the story ultimately ends. It's a shame that some other girl got the phone call and couldn't receive a bid, while the OP has just given up her bid without even giving the new home a chance.

I was in the same situation and I agree with you 100%.

My roommate is in a sorority (as are almost all of my friends) and she always tells me how much she "hates" it and I always just roll my eyes. So many girls would love to be in your place! Even though you said that you didn't accept the bid, I really wish you would have... There were a few houses I didn't like and I put them at the bottom of my list on the first day we voted and now I wish I would've put them up higher after meeting so many of the great girls I have met that are members! You should have given them a chance...

[xoStarr]

Some people are being really nasty when I think the girl could have been misinformed...

The same exact thing happened to me where pref day rolled around and I had my first and last choices. My RC told me to put both on my bid card even though I told her flat out I wouldn't want a bid from my last choice. She told me "putting the other one on there will give you a better chance at getting your first choice". So I listened to her. That and when they were going over all the rules regarding signing the card, they said "dont worry about reading it, just sign the bottom, it's nothing important".

Now that it's a new year I'm really pushing all my friends who are interested to learn as much as they can about the process before hand so that the same thing doesn't happen to them (and I'll be going through it again as well after waiting a year). Things happen, be sad for a little, but don't keep a chip on your shoulder the whole year because of it. Because if you decide to try again next year, they probably will remember you, and you don't want to be remembered for being a "moody macy" who held a grudge all last year.

[shirley1929]

Originally Posted by xoStarr

Some people are being really nasty when I think the girl could have been misinformed...

The same exact thing happened to me where pref day rolled around and I had my first and last choices. My RC told me to put both on my bid card even though I told her flat out I wouldn't want a bid from my last choice. She told me "putting the other one on there will give you a better chance at getting your first choice". So I listened to her. That and when they were going over all the rules regarding signing the card, they said "dont worry about reading it, just sign the bottom, it's nothing important".

Now that it's a new year I'm really pushing all my friends who are interested to learn as much as they can about the process before hand so that the same thing doesn't happen to them (and I'll be going through it again as well after waiting a year). Things happen, be sad for a little, but don't keep a chip on your shoulder the whole year because of it. Because if you decide to try again next year, they probably will remember you, and you don't want to be remembered for being a "moody macy" who held a grudge all last year.

Very good post for a newbie! Welcome to GC and good luck on your next recruitment!

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by xoStarr

Some people are being really nasty when I think the girl could have been misinformed...

The same exact thing happened to me where pref day rolled around and I had my first and last choices. My RC told me to put both on my bid card even though I told her flat out I wouldn't want a bid from my last choice. She told me "putting the other one on there will give you a better chance at getting your first choice". So I listened to her. That and when they were going over all the rules regarding signing the card, they said "dont worry about reading it, just sign the bottom, it's nothing important".

Now that it's a new year I'm really pushing all my friends who are interested to learn as much as they can about the process before hand so that the same thing doesn't happen to them (and I'll be going through it again as well after waiting a year). Things happen, be sad for a little, but don't keep a chip on your shoulder the whole year because of it. Because if you decide to try again next year, they probably will remember you, and you don't want to be remembered for being a "moody macy" who held a grudge all last year.

so you're not a chi omega? your name gc name made me think that you were.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

so you're not a chi omega? your name gc name made me think that you were.

no, she's just kiss hug starr.

[xoStarr]

Originally Posted by 33girl

no, she's just kiss hug starr.

^^ correct. I thought that was potentially a bad idea after making my username but figured since it was lowercase I could get by. I use the same username on other (non-greek) forum sites too.

[dukedg]

Originally Posted by xoStarr

My RC told me to put both on my bid card even though I told her flat out I wouldn't want a bid from my last choice. She told me "putting the other one on there will give you a better chance at getting your first choice". So I listened to her.

This could be true, depending on how quota additions work at your school. If you only put one chapter down, you would not have been eligible for quota additions. Because you put both, you were eligible. If your QAs are based on your preference, then you could have matched to your first choice as a QA if both chapters had already filled their pledge classes before you were placed.

[als463]

*Note: This is what I wrote to another cry-baby PNM in another thread. This is how I feel and I have no problem expressing that.

Boo-Hoo! Get over it! These ladies chose you and you are being really unfair to them. There are other girls who would LOVE to have what you have right now. Get OFF the computer and go spend time with these ladies. This is just shameful.

[DubaiSis]

Anyone who tells you to not read the fine print should be strung up by their fingernails. Here's your life lesson of the day - the more anyone says that to you the more carefully you should read it. The fact that they're trying to hurry you along is no excuse.

[katydidKD]

she already rejected the bid

[als463]

Originally Posted by katydidKD

she already rejected the bid

Oh, then let me rephrase. You missed out on Greek life because you thought you were "too good" for the sisterhood that wanted you. Thank you for rejecting the bid and not bringing down the rest of your pledge/ new member class. I stand by the "boo-hoo" though.

[katydidKD]

No, I'm just pointing out that either way, a PNM didn't do the right thing. But go ahead and make a bitch comment because thats all you do

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by katydidKD

No, I'm just pointing out that either way, a PNM didn't do the right thing. But go ahead and make a bitch comment because thats all you do

You're really boring. And misogynistic.