Rec Question

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Lots of times, we advise PNM's to ask their rec writers if they know alumnae of other sororities. How do you guys treat a PNM that comes to you in this manner? Do you consider her to be "personally known", or is she the same as a random PNM referred to you via an APH? Or does it depend on who referred her?

I have never been asked for a rec in this manner, but I think if a close friend/relative referred a PNM to me, I'd think "well, if close friend considers her good enough for ABC, then she must be good enough for my org, too".

[ComradesTrue]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Lots of times, we advise PNM's to ask their rec writers if they know alumnae of other sororities. How do you guys treat a PNM that comes to you in this manner? Do you consider her to be "personally known", or is she the same as a random PNM referred to you via an APH? Or does it depend on who referred her?

I have never been asked for a rec in this manner, but I think if a close friend/relative referred a PNM to me, I'd think "well, if close friend considers her good enough for ABC, then she must be good enough for my org, too".

I have had friends ask me to write recs, and in turn I have asked others to do recs for girls that I know.

I typically put on the rec form that I do not personally know the young lady, but if my trusted friend vouches for her then I do note that.

[Titchou]

Same here. Our form asks that question so I always say it came from trusted friend, etc

[Just interested]

Same here. Our form asks the same questions.

[FSUZeta]

ditto.