When you aren't "the best girl"

[Loyally Kappa]

If you really feel you are not a "best girl" ... go to a small school. The really "huge" sororities don't colonize at the small schools so you can blow them off with no loss to our self-esteem. If you are a "good girl," you will likely be pledged to a totally rockin' strong national sorority and will benefit from strong Panhellenic connections for the rest of your life.

We can't all get our letters from our great-grandma ... but you can have a valued set to pass along!

[victoriana]

Originally Posted by Loyally Kappa

If you really feel you are not a "best girl" ... go to a small school. The really "huge" sororities don't colonize at the small schools so you can blow them off with no loss to our self-esteem. If you are a "good girl," you will likely be pledged to a totally rockin' strong national sorority and will benefit from strong Panhellenic connections for the rest of your life.

We can't all get our letters from our great-grandma ... but you can have a valued set to pass along!

What?? This post completely baffles me. It seems like she has already decided she is going to MTSU and is looking for ways she can stand out, so your advice makes no sense. It actually seems like you are condescending to sororities who are not "huge." You say that if she's not a "good girl," she should go to a small school, where the "rockin' strong national sororities" don't colonize. It doesn't seem very Panhellenic of you to say something like that. Maybe I just took it the wrong way, but that's how you came across.

OP, just be yourself and be confident. Dress for success and look your best. Follow the tips the other posters have already brought up. Don't worry about tiers or reputations, join the sorority that's best for YOU and where you feel comfortable. After all, you wouldn't want to be in a chapter where you felt like you always had to be looking and acting perfect, right? Good luck

[kaylaxlove]

OP, talk about the things you DID do. What did you participate in while you were in high school--there are many things that can make you stand out--not just dancing & pageants.

& to Loyally Kappa--I beg to disagree, I go to a small school and all of our sororities are top national sororities, including two which are considered "top" at many SEC schools, so I don't think that's correct. Beyond that--PNMs shouldn't go into recruitment looking to join a "big" sorority, but rather attempting to find their true sisterhood.

[MTSUHopeful]

Originally Posted by victoriana

What?? This post completely baffles me. It seems like she has already decided she is going to MTSU and is looking for ways she can stand out, so your advice makes no sense. It actually seems like you are condescending to sororities who are not "huge." You say that if she's not a "good girl," she should go to a small school, where the "rockin' strong national sororities" don't colonize. It doesn't seem very Panhellenic of you to say something like that. Maybe I just took it the wrong way, but that's how you came across.

OP, just be yourself and be confident. Dress for success and look your best. Follow the tips the other posters have already brought up. Don't worry about tiers or reputations, join the sorority that's best for YOU and where you feel comfortable. After all, you wouldn't want to be in a chapter where you felt like you always had to be looking and acting perfect, right? Good luck

I took it the same way, victoriana, so it probably isn't just you..

And what you say makes sense. I will find the chapter that fits me best regardless of stereotypes or "tiers". Thank you. :]