A disconnect with legacies?

[AOEforme]

Originally Posted by AlwaysSAI

If not, the adviser could at least council the chapter on how to consider legacies. Keeping MegaLegLindsey as long as a chapter can without having to bid her (ie--cut before prefs) is a courtsey, I think, was earned through her mom's dedication.

If the chapter is really not interested in the legacy, this would almost be worse. You're taking away a visit to a chapter that may love to have that woman and you are stringing her along.

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When I was president, we always reviewed the legacy policy at important points during recruitment and the subsequent membership selection process, but that was as far as I went to "force" it.

I think if a girl only gets a bid because she's a legacy, you start down a bad road. If Legacy has a bad experience in her chapter (because she really doesn't belong there), you risk alienating both her and her active mother or sister. It's better for her to find a fit where she truly belongs.

If that's the legacy chapter, wonderful. That's where I'm hoping my daughter(s) will end up. However, I'd rather have the opportunity to bond with my daughters over our fabulous experiences as sorority women than over a dismal experience as a member of my sorority.

[AlwaysSAI]

Originally Posted by AOEforme

If the chapter is really not interested in the legacy, this would almost be worse. You're taking away a visit to a chapter that may love to have that woman and you are stringing her along.

Of course, there are obviously these cases and cases where the legacy isn't interested in the chapter. I was looking at it from the stand point that the chapter should make every effort to get to know the legacy. (And, now I'm remembering that most NPCs have in their policy that the legacy must be invited to at least one invitational round)

Originally Posted by AOEforme

However, I'd rather have the opportunity to bond with my daughters over our fabulous experiences as sorority women than over a dismal experience as a member of my sorority.

YES! This is a perfect way to put it.