I dont think my mother's hoarding is totally related to loss. I think my dad kept her in check when they were married. My mother had expensive tastes if you will and always had the thought she was better than others and her "things" helped with that mentality. Once my dad left, there were no adults around to put a stop to spending, so my mom spent herself into bankrupcty trying to keep a lifestyle she could no longer afford to impress people.
I do think loss can have a role. My mom got really bad when she had to sell the house I grew up in. I think she felt all the memories left with the house and her "things" was all she had left.
I dont really know though. She is so detached from reality anymore. She doesnt get it no matter how many times you sit her down & explain it to her that she doesnt have room for all that crap, my sister and I have no interest in her crap in the present or the future, most of it represents a life that is gone and has been for 18 years and isnt coming back, she cant afford it, etc.
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