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Originally Posted by KD4Me
Bad title for this thread, I've already said that (I think). What was in my head at the moment was that some PNMs come here and ask questions about what they should wear to a party three months from now, so I thought I would offer advice that would be helpful to them right now.
I do think that someone who takes time to write a letter saying that a PNM would be a worthy member of her sorority deserve note of thanks. Will not sending it hurt your chances? Unlikely. Will sending it result in a more favorable impression on the alumna, resulting in a stronger reference? Possibly. So when PNMs are posting pictures of shoes, asking us which ones we prefer with which dress for a party that won't occur for months, I offer a suggestion of something that they can do NOW that might help them, and that certainly is a good practice for life.
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Now I'm kind of disappointed I didn't quote you for posterity.
But in reality, the controversial part of this WAS the title. It comes off not as a good bit of advice or even a bit of venting about rudeness but as really passive aggressive because it is soooo utterly unrelated to the title you gave it. Thus suggesting you'd sink someone's recruitment for failing to thank you properly OR suggesting that you'd guarantee someone's recruitment for the right note. Neither of these is really within your ability so it comes off poorly.
And despite my strong dislike for dress the PNM threads, you're still coming off rather patronizing with your "good practice for life" lines, in my opinion.
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