Would you get married quickly if you had no doubts?

[psusue]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Uh uh, what you see is ultimately what you get. I just don't get why no one ever rationalizes that the cost of cancellation before a wedding is far less than the cost of a divorce, emotionally as well as financially.

My mom always says 'even if you were to run screaming back down the aisle, it would ultimately still be cheaper, less embarrassing, and less painful than a divorce'. FWIW.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by psusue

My mom always says 'even if you were to run screaming back down the aisle, it would ultimately still be cheaper, less embarrassing, and less painful than a divorce'. FWIW.

lol
Your mom is so right. To me, based on what I see happening today, prospective husbands no longer have to court women, or behave like gentleman. The reason why is because too many women are willing to fill in the blanks in the relationship themselves in order to have a man. It's pathetic. And yet, many of these women still end up unfulfilled or repeatedly alone. It's just that because of our longing for a relationship with a man, we often accept less than what a great guy is or should be. It's just that knowing the behavioral patterns of true love helps us to be more discerning. I just think that what it boils down to is choosing to be honest with ourselves, even when it hurts, because it's the only safeguard against repeatedly being a victim in romantic relationships.

[preciousjeni]

I got married about seven months after getting engaged. We had known each other for just under two years and had been together for one year when we got married. Actually, maybe we don't qualify as getting married fast.

I knew I was going to marry him about a month after I met him, but I didn't mention anything until we got more serious.

ETA: Our five year anniversary is a couple months away.

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Your mom is so right. To me, based on what I see happening today, prospective husbands no longer have to court women, or behave like gentleman.

I was courted.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

I was courted.

And congrats on your 5th year of marriage. May God continue to bless you with many more.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

And congrats on your 5th year of marriage. May God continue to bless you with many more.

Thank you!

[honeychile]

I wish I could remember to whom this should be attributed, but I've heard that you should never marry someone until you've untangled Christmas lights together. I think that you should go through one year of holidays together, and if you plan to have children, babysit together. But whether you should do that under the same roof or not is up to the individuals involved.