SFs, A question/scenario for you...

[HumbleHeart]

I am sure that if each of us choose to nitpick we can find some less than desirable characteristic in our friend, our mate, etc. (or at least I think I can)! I am also sure we have had a friend who had a reputation that they didn't necessarily "earn." for example, how many times have we heard of someone being "stuck-up" because they had a light complexion? Or what about those folk who are "shy" that are christened with "thinking they are CUTE." I am sure I can name MANY more but you all should have the idea by now.

I said all of that to say, we all have a reputation that proceeds us , whether we've earned/deserve it or not. We all have behaviors that are less than perfect! However, I am not usually one that wouldn't address unhealthy behaviors of my "Friends." I would also like to think that they would address my shortcomings in the same manner.

As I said before, I would address the situation. If these woman "know" me as well as thye should from my interest in the organization and my reputation from campus, their would be NO doubt that "my friends behaviors" are not my behaviors. If these ladies cannot differentiate between my merit in their organizaion and my friends then maybe this isn't the time for me to become a member.

If I continue, to change the elements of myself which make me "HumbleHeart," would I still be me? If I change who I am, who I am Friends with and any other thing asked of me, will that be enough for DEF? Will DEF be enough for me?