Rushing as a Junior

[Mevara]

Why would a chapter want sloppy seconds? Especially (as you describe) from a less desirable chapter?

[adpiucf]

Rerush. It is one week out of your life. If you aren't liking your options after preferentials, DO NOT sign the bid card. Then you will be free to attend informal recruitment events for sororities throughout the school year and possibly be bidded by one of them.

If you're at a school with only a handful of sororities and a non-competitive recruitment, chances are you will get a bid somewhere.

Also, please remember that you are basing your Top Choice on an org where, on average, you have spent less than hour speaking to only a few of its members. If you're a fairly average person, chances are you can find a way to fit into any group of 50+ people.

Go in with an open mind not expecting anything-- just plan to find something you like about each sorority each day of recruitment.

Like I said, all you have to lose by rerushing is a few bucks for registration and a week of your life going to parties and meeting people. If you do that, you will have no regrets about missing out on anything, and if it doesn't go as planned, you know you tried. Go for it, I say.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I think the stigma of "re-rushing" varies from school to school. The bigger question is why a chapter that didn't want you as a sophomore would want you as a junior.

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Excellent question.

I think anyone who is considering re-rushing should ask themselves exactly that.

Which is why I said unless something has dramatically changed for the better in the last year. Seriously, I don't get why a woman thinks she will change the minds of chapters that already rejected her as a sophomore. Unless of course she discovered the cure for cancer or was the person responsible for finding Osama Bin Laden since last year's recruitment.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Mevara

Why would a chapter want sloppy seconds? Especially (as you describe) from a less desirable chapter?

To be fair, the OP didn't say "this is the chapter everyone had at the bottom of their list." It was the one at the bottom of HER list. For all we know, it was a chapter everyone else loved and she didn't want to pledge there because the columns on the house frightened her or something.

Originally Posted by adpiucf

If you're at a school with only a handful of sororities and a non-competitive recruitment, chances are you will get a bid somewhere.

This is 100% not true. If the Greek system and the sororities are that small, more than likely each chapter has a very distinct personality and if you don't fit, you REALLY DON'T FIT. Non-competitive does NOT mean everyone with a cervix gets a bid.

OP - if that's the case, you should have been working over this past year to make friends with members of the other sororities. If no one in the groups knows you as a junior AND you have already declined a bid, no matter how non-competitive the school is, the chance of your attaining sorority membership at this point is slim.

[psusue]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If no one in the groups knows you as a junior AND you have already declined a bid, no matter how non-competitive the school is, the chance of your attaining sorority membership at this point is slim.

My point is this-- why in the world would you want to get an entirely new group of friends your junior year? You said you've been there since you were a freshman, and you have already gone through recruitment once, so what is going to change to make this year different? It would be different if you hadn't gone through recruitment and you were still unsure of whether or not you fit in somewhere, but you have. And the process works (most of the time). So I'm at a loss.

If you are interested in going into recruitment again with a truly open mind, I say go for it with your whole heart; then you won't regret it. Otherwise I would suggest that you invest your time into other interests and passions of yours, and with the friends you already have. You were offered the opportunity to join a sisterhood once and you let it pass you by, I suggest you don't do the same again if you really want this. Good luck to you.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by psusue

My point is this-- why in the world would you want to get an entirely new group of friends your junior year?

• Boyfriend breakup.
  
• Friend breakup.
  
• Changed major and have far more time on hands.

I think that a junior who is a "clean slate" can go in at quite a few schools and receive a bid to a group she loves and who loves her with a minimum of trouble, BUT the OP's problem is that she's already gone through rush, received a bid, and declined it. Anyone who does that is going to be looked at doubly closely, no matter their class status. Unless she happens to have befriended a whole bunch of girls in another chapter, I don't have a good feeling about this one.

[Splash]

Do we know her school? If asked, answer honestly, but spin in your favor. If they don't bring it up, then don't bring it up either.

[PanseyGirl]

I totally agree with adpiucf! You really do not have anything to lose and if you do not rush, you will always wonder what would have happened if you did.