I want to rush...

[Gatorbaby]

I didn't think reccommendations were that pivotal in a decision. In fact, I secured recs for all the houses at UF (nearly...excepting DPhiE, I believe), and I was dropped by 9/15 houses after round 2.
So, from my understanding and personal experience, recs can only pull you through to round 2. From then on, you're on your own. Get them if you have the time, que sera if you don't.

The biggest thing that helped me in Zeta was a girl I knew from back home, not a random recommendation.

So, if you really want to get started an make yourself ready for Rush..some tips:
1) Clean up that Facebook! Make sure you have an appropriate Fb picture, quotes, etc. Of course don't change who you are or what you're about but nobody wants to see curse words or that kind of thing all over your page.
2) Talk to some girls you might've known in highschool who are now in college. I've gotten a few messages like this on Facebook and I'm more than happy to answer questions. They can sometimes give you some tips and pointers on Rush specific to your school.
3) Don't take Rush (as a process when you're going through it) super seriously. Do your best and be yourself and that's all anybody can ask of you. As mentioned previously, I was dropped by a little under half of the houses after Round 2. It happens - these things are arbitrary and/or I wasn't a good fit for the majority. The one thing I can say is that I was proud to be myself during all of the rounds and was pleasantly surprised and delighted when Zeta accepted me. I was assured I had made the right decision because I was myself throughout the entire process.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by Gatorbaby

I didn't think reccommendations were that pivotal in a decision. In fact, I secured recs for all the houses at UF (nearly...excepting DPhiE, I believe), and I was dropped by 9/15 houses after round 2.
So, from my understanding and personal experience, recs can only pull you through to round 2. From then on, you're on your own. Get them if you have the time, que sera if you don't.

And if you didn't have recs, you might have been dropped by 13/15 chapters. You really don't know. And again, the weight that recs carry depends on the sororities and the school you attend.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by Gatorbaby

The biggest thing that helped me in Zeta was a girl I knew from back home, not a random recommendation.

And you really don't know this for sure, either. Unless the chapter HONESTLY shared with you the reason(s) that you were selected for membership.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Gatorbaby

I didn't think reccommendations were that pivotal in a decision. In fact, I secured recs for all the houses at UF (nearly...excepting DPhiE, I believe), and I was dropped by 9/15 houses after round 2.

Having a recommendation doesn't guarantee you anything. You are using anecdotal evidence from your limited experience to council other women which could torpedo their recruitments. Like ASTalumna06 said, without recs, you might have had no invitations. There are many organizations which REQUIRE a recommendation or use the lack of a recommendation as an easy cut for the first round. Sorry you were released despite having recommendations, but there's no use telling others that they aren't needed.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

Having a recommendation doesn't guarantee you anything. You are using anecdotal evidence from your limited experience to council other women which could torpedo their recruitments. Like ASTalumna06 said, without recs, you might have had no invitations. There are many organizations which REQUIRE a recommendation or use the lack of a recommendation as an easy cut for the first round. Sorry you were released despite having recommendations, but there's no use telling others that they aren't needed.

Her argument would actually make more sense if she didn’t have any recs, and was still invited back to 6 houses. But how she could have recs to nearly all of the houses and then tell someone else not to get them is beyond me.

I actually read over this again…

Originally Posted by Gatorbaby

I didn't think reccommendations were that pivotal in a decision. In fact, I secured recs for all the houses at UF (nearly...excepting DPhiE, I believe), and I was dropped by 9/15 houses after round 2.
So, from my understanding and personal experience, recs can only pull you through to round 2. From then on, you're on your own. Get them if you have the time, que sera if you don't.

.. and realized that she actually said, “I didn’t think recs were that important, but I still got one for almost every house… you need recs to get past the first round… but you don’t need to get them if you don’t have the time.”

Uh… der… what?

[33girl]

This is just another symptom of neoism -thinking you know what you're talking about.