Pregnant Sorority Member

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Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

OMFG How dare you! Not everyone has a wall to hang a banner on! Not everyone has walls, or maybe their House Corp. won't let them hang up anything. I can't believe how insensitive you are!

Hey, I didn't have a wall to hang stuff on, either! Just because I like kicking myself when I'm down doesn't mean you have to call me insensitive!

Maybe I should just hang my banner on your face!

Originally Posted by BluPhire

This quote right here has me as an outsider looking in feeling like man are ya'll really a sisterhood or a clique?

Just comments from the outside.

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

sororities are sisterhoods but they are also businesses and have to break even, by continuing to at least replace their membership who graduate, drop their membership, transfer to another school, etc.

I understand what FSUZeta is saying, and I completely agree, however... BluPhire, this is what it sounds like to me, also. In the context of this thread, we're talking about the importance of supporting a sister through a difficult/emotional time, over caring about how a non-member views the chapter.

It's one thing if a member is getting wasted every weekend, sleeping with every guy she sees, posting inappropriate pictures on Facebook, and/or has been treating potential members with little to no respect. It's another if a member gets pregnant/is diagnosed with a serious disease/has a family member go to prison, etc.

Everyone has their own shit to deal with. Life happens. And who knows.. maybe having a baby is exactly what this person wanted. And then her sisters are going to turn their backs on her because she, as an adult, made an adult decision to have a child? ... just so non-members won't think, "That's the chapter with the girl who got knocked up"?

To me, it's like any other PNM/chapter relationship. If the PNM thinks she's too good for the chapter (for whatever reason), then she doesn't belong there. Simple as that.