Initiation GPA to a sorority

[katydidKD]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

You're too dumb to realize no one answered your question.

Why are you so rude? It's the internet. She politely asked a question. I don't understand why people are so mean on here. It's unbecoming.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by katydidKD

Why are you so rude? It's the internet. She politely asked a question. I don't understand why people are so mean on here. It's unbecoming.

OP came back with an obnoxious response, to be fair. I feel the same way when someone gets jumped on for asking a question, but this was deserved.

I agree with those that suggest the daughter should find these things out herself. I remember going through and though my mother did help me with recs (and wardrobe haha) she made me find out answers to questions like these myself and that was the best way she could have handled it...I was used to asking questions and going to the trouble to find resources on my own before I even got there.

[katydidKD]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

OP came back with an obnoxious response, to be fair. I feel the same way when someone gets jumped on for asking a question, but this was deserved.

I agree with those that suggest the daughter should find these things out herself. I remember going through and though my mother did help me with recs (and wardrobe haha) she made me find out answers to questions like these myself and that was the best way she could have handled it...I was used to asking questions and going to the trouble to find resources on my own before I even got there.

Just in general, members who have been posting on here for years (from what it looks like) want to execute someone for asking a question they don't like or that they think is dumb. Gosh, get over it. People have questions, and honestly its an internet forum...try not to care so much.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by katydidKD

Just in general, members who have been posting on here for years (from what it looks like) want to execute someone for asking a question they don't like or that they think is dumb. Gosh, get over it. People have questions, and honestly its an internet forum...try not to care so much.

You're right. It is an internet forum. If you don't like it, don't read it.

Try not to care so much.

[katydidKD]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

You're right. It is an internet forum. If you don't like it, don't read it.

Try not to care so much.

I enjoy things like badge trends and what not. But you're right, everyone is so rude to others whom they disagree I should stop reading.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by katydidKD

Gosh, get over it...try not to care so much.

It's now your turn to drink the Kool Aid that you made.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by katydidKD

Just in general, members who have been posting on here for years (from what it looks like) want to execute someone for asking a question they don't like or that they think is dumb. Gosh, get over it. People have questions, and honestly its an internet forum...try not to care so much.

It's like raaaaaaaaaaaaainnnnnnnnn...

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by sororitymom222

She actually is still in high school, and I'm just trying to have answers to questions I know she will ask me in the next year or so. It is called being a good mother.

Originally Posted by sororitymom222

Daughter is in high school....came on this site because I felt I could get an honest answer, which I did by the other helpful posters.

The OP makes it sound as though her daughter is incapable of asking these questions herself because she is in high school. I find it hard to believe that a 17-18 year old girl doesn't know how to use the phone and/or internet.

When she asks you these questions, say to her, "Try calling the school's Greek Life office. They should give you all of that information," or ask her, "Have you searched for any information online?" Finding out all the answers for her isn't "being a good mother." It's ok to help where she needs it. Give her the phone number to the Greek Life office... Direct her to Greekchat where she can ask questions of other sorority members... But don't do the work for her. If you keep that up, she'll never learn to do these things on her own.

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

I agree with those that suggest the daughter should find these things out herself. I remember going through and though my mother did help me with recs (and wardrobe haha) she made me find out answers to questions like these myself and that was the best way she could have handled it...I was used to asking questions and going to the trouble to find resources on my own before I even got there.

Exactly.

[katydidKD]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

The OP makes it sound as though her daughter is incapable of asking these questions herself because she is in high school. I find it hard to believe that a 17-18 year old girl doesn't know how to use the phone and/or internet.

When she asks you these questions, say to her, "Try calling the school's Greek Life office. They should give you all of that information," or ask her, "Have you searched for any information online?" Finding out all the answers for her isn't "being a good mother." It's ok to help where she needs it. Give her the phone number to the Greek Life office... Direct her to Greekchat where she can ask questions of other sorority members... But don't do the work for her. If you keep that up, she'll never learn to do these things on her own.



Exactly.

But why do you care about her mothering philosophy?

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by katydidKD

But why do you care about her mothering philosophy?

For the same reason that you care about what we care about.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by katydidKD

But why do you care about her mothering philosophy?

I'm just trying to help her out. If her daughter is going to be in college soon, she needs to let go and realize that her daughter needs to start doing these things for herself.

Otherwise, she'll be back here in September, starting a new thread, rambling on and on about how her darlibg daughter didn't get a bid to the "top tier" sorority, and she'll be wondering how that could have possibly happened! And like always, we'll say things like, "We don't know," and, "Let your daughter freak out on the internet herself (if she so chooses)."

We've seen it happen too many times.

[katydidKD]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

I'm just trying to help her out. If her daughter is going to be in college soon, she needs to let go and realize that her daughter needs to start doing these things for herself.

Otherwise, she'll be back here in September, starting a new thread, rambling on and on about how her darlibg daughter didn't get a bid to the "top tier" sorority, and she'll be wondering how that could have possibly happened! And like always, we'll say things like, "We don't know," and, "Let your daughter freak out on the internet herself (if she so chooses)."

We've seen it happen too many times.

Understandable, I just don't get why certain people feel the need to be so unnecessarily rude.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by katydidKD

Understandable, I just don't get why certain people feel the need to be so unnecessarily rude.

Shut up, idiot.

There ya go.

[ASTalumna06]

Also.. If daughter hasn't even asked these questions yet, and mom is already looking for answers for her, it makes me wonder if mom wants this more than daughter does..

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by katydidKD

It's unbecoming.

Unbecoming of.......