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grr my computer spazzed while I was writing this post and I lost everything I had written the first time, so here we go again. I finally read the entire thread.
First off, I don't think it's cool that people are jumping on SC2013 for not joining the chapter that offered her a bid. From lurking on here, I knew not to sign a bid card if I was not really ready to commit, and I wasn't, so I didn't sign a card, but I would have received a bid to the same house. That house is a wonderful house full of lovely women, but it is not the house for everyone, much like how my house is not the house for everyone, and Alpha Alpha Alpha isn't he house for everyone. I may have been happy had I joined that house, and she may have been as well, but I know now that I am incredibly happy where I am. My guess is SC2013 had similar qualms and wanted to investigate all her options (and I'm pretty sure she actually said something along those lines in one of her posts). Yes, we are only 18-19, but that doesn't mean we're not capable of making good/well-thought-out decisions. Every decision we make may not be the best, but we do know how to make important ones.
Also, concerning my house (SDT), we will eventually participate in formal, but we did not last year and will not next year for a variety of reasons. I don't know if I'm at liberty to discuss them all, but we're quite happy with the girls we've brought in from the last three pledge classes of COB, and we have grown considerably.
Ok, back to the thread. The part of my paper I was supposed to be writing was the conclusion, and I think I'll just post it here. The paper is about superficiality & tiers in the sorority system here. It's not the best thing I've written, and I definitely didn't spend enough time on it, but I think it addresses my point.
At the end of the day, though, the tier system shouldn’t really matter. One CollegeACB poster summed it up well, saying, “I think that my house is the absolute best house in the world, and I'm so glad I'm in it. I'm pretty sure other girls feel that way about their houses. So shouldn't that make every house a "top tier" house?” [there was a citation here but I removed it]. Hundreds of women go through recruitment to join a sorority to find their new sisters. Some women do join for the social opportunities, but women stay in their sororities throughout their time in college because they genuinely enjoy the company of their sisters. At the end of the day, sorority women are all pretty similar, and at the end of college, it won’t matter what house a woman was in, much less what “tier” the house belonged to. They are all sorority women, with all the good and bad connotations that brings. Likewise, at the end of the day, shallow judgments are irrelevant—people will ultimately become true friends with people whom they like, regardless of their social status or physical appearance. Yes, there will always be some people who only form fleeting friendships with other people from a similar echelon of society, but true friendship knows no barriers.
That's pretty much all I have to say for now... I already said everything else in post #79
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