Recommendation/reference help!

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by excelblue

I find it funny how you feel bad about contacting them but have no issues asking the women of GreekChat for the same.

Perhaps the difference is that contacting them is more official and serious; and she cannot contact them as a random and relatively anonymous username.

[AZTheta]

I'm going to step back in and say this.

I think this is a scared high school senior who genuinely does not know how to go about obtaining recommendations, which are crucial at the school she is planning to attend. And she does not have the benefit of friends or family who can guide her in the recruitment process. She may be timid, she may be reserved, she may be clueless. Who knows?

Keyboard courage is way different from real life interactions; having coached and mentored more than a few 18-30 year olds, I'm constantly amazed at their lack of confidence in handling new situations.

Personally, I've met many young women who are the first in their family to even attend college, let alone attempt recruitment. So I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt and once more repeat: contact the Houston Area Panhellenic, you've been provided the link. They will help you to the best of their ability; you've been given other excellent suggestions, so get a wiggle on! (I also wish she'd go over to the recruitment forum and read adpiucf's excellent sticky post).

Again, to the OP: good luck on your recruitment.

[wldms]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Perhaps the difference is that contacting them is more official and serious; and she cannot contact them as a random and relatively anonymous username.

Thank you, that's exactly how I feel!

[wldms]

Originally Posted by AzTheta

I'm going to step back in and say this.

I think this is a scared high school senior who genuinely does not know how to go about obtaining recommendations, which are crucial at the school she is planning to attend. And she does not have the benefit of friends or family who can guide her in the recruitment process. She may be timid, she may be reserved, she may be clueless. Who knows?

Keyboard courage is way different from real life interactions; having coached and mentored more than a few 18-30 year olds, I'm constantly amazed at their lack of confidence in handling new situations.

Personally, I've met many young women who are the first in their family to even attend college, let alone attempt recruitment. So I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt and once more repeat: contact the Houston Area Panhellenic, you've been provided the link. They will help you to the best of their ability; you've been given other excellent suggestions, so get a wiggle on! (I also wish she'd go over to the recruitment forum and read adpiucf's excellent sticky post).

Again, to the OP: good luck on your recruitment.

Thank you for your thorough explanation instead of just being rude!

[33girl]

Originally Posted by wldms

Thank you for your thorough explanation instead of just being rude!

People aren't being rude. We've told you what the best course is to take, so take it, rather than asking us questions that we can't answer with any degree of certainty. Not all alumnae panhellenics operate in the same way so you need to contact the one that is pertinent to YOU.

[FSUZeta]

speaking of keyboard courage, wldms, you can probably make your initial contact with the alumnae panhellenic chapter via email.

from what i have heard, the sooner you contact them the better, so do not delay. that gives them time to begin working on your recs. for you. my houston area niece decided too late in the game to seek help from the appropriate alumnae panhellenic and they were done doing their mass reccommendations. she had to find individual members who would help her. you do not want to do this-it is too hard.

many of the houston area alumnae chapters hold information sessions for area high school seniors and their mothers. they may have already occured, but maybe not! their websites should list the date and the place, so check it out!

[arrowlady]

Wldms- I would suggest going to your high school counselors office, many High Schools in the Dallas area have registration for the area Panhellenic through the guidance department. At my daughter's school they are given information/registration packets, you would fill this out then it is forwarded to the Panhellenic group and then to the local sororities alumnae. They will usually have an informational session/tea as well.